I read in answers to another question that if I tell the hospital staff I can no longer care for my mom they are responsible to find her a place. Is this true if she is on Medicare and Medicaid. She has advanced dementia, IBS, incontinence. I can not get out of her sight until she comes looking for me. My health and mental strength are suffering.
No charges were ever filed,,, however, i now live under his constant scrutiny and manipulation that if hes not getting his way, he'll falsely make accusations again. Its very draining and unfair to my three young kids, my husband and his mother who also lives with us.
My dads a quadroplegic, and i take great care of him. But its crap that he wants me to load him up and haul him to the store just becuz im using his money to buy milk and bread. Its a lot of heavy lifting for my 5'1" frame, just to get some basic neccesities. I understand hes bored, but he needs to understand that just his basic 24/7 care is demanding enough without the expectation of me having to entertain him as well.
The social worker told me that there is no such thing as being a ward of the state,,, except for if charges were brought against me by the state :(
So im damned if do and damned if i dont. A skilled nursing facility wants 7,000.00 a month for someone with his level of care. He only gets 3,000.00 a month.
If you live in a state with "Filial Responsibility" laws, you may still be sued for the cost of her care if any assets were transferred to you within the 5 years prior to the Medicaid application date.
On the moral side of things, it is the children's responsibility to make sure that the parent is being cared for. But an individual child cannot be forced to do the work themselves in the US. To tell an adult child that they will be arrested if they don't take the possession of a parent is really blackmail. I don't know what I would do if faced with this type of blackmail.
http://www.assisted-living-atlanta.com/downloadc/71629/
and, http://www.lawfirms.com/resources/nursing-home/filial-responsibility
and this is a really good one, http://www.regent.edu/acad/schlaw/blogs/docs/filiallaws.pdf
Apparently, they are dusting off the statute and taking another look at it here in Georgia and probably every other state too.
With the inflated cost of elder care in the US, it wouldn't take long for all the assets of the elders and their children would be gone. Everything really comes back to the inflated cost of elder care and general healthcare in the US. I do wish the wealthier people in the country were more for people and less for themselves. There's only so much the taxpayers and family caregivers can give to make sure elders are taken care of.