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Someone you trust, who is willing and competent, who is local to you, who is younger than you.

If you can't find someone to meet this description then you may have to use a fiduciary or attorney.
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It’s wise to be sure you have POA for both financial and healthcare decisions, along with an advance directive, and will. Name a person and secondary person who’s at least a generation younger than you, someone you feel is trustworthy and understands your situation. An estate or elder care attorney will be an excellent guide in helping you include everything needed
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You have pretty much narrowed down your choices by not having a family member. Should not be anyone your age. And as said, there should be a back up person. Ask the person first if they want the position. For now you can be assigned without even knowing it. If you do it that way, the person does not have to except the position, if you have no backup, you have no POA.

Understand by having a POA, they are not responsible for your physical care or being at your beck and call. They can hire aides and someone to run errands for you using your money. They never use their own. They just handle your finances. Medical POA/ Advanced directive stipulates what you want or don't want when it comes to your health. The person assigned should follow this directive and is the one who talks to Medical Staff. Both POAs should be assigned to the same person. It gets confusing when there are 2 different people.

There are private fiduciarys, I think they are called, that you can hire to do this.
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II don't want family who can I pick
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janleej Sep 2, 2026
WWho should I pick for Direct Advancement
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Don't pick me !
In other words, if you have time, think about the people you trust and truly know.
Do you get honest truthful feelings from friends you have known for a long time? Someone such as a lawyer/fiduciary?
in any event, get your living trust done, DNR,POLST, etc.
Belong to a social group, church, ?
Best friend or maybe BF has an idea you should consider..
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