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You need to call APS or 911 and get her admitted to a psychiatric facility.
This behavior is so unacceptable when living in someone else's house.
If she was living alone APS would intervene for self neglect. You don't want them saying you are negligent in her care, so call and ask for help before someone else does.
If she just wants to give up and die, well, that is her choice but, NOT in front of your children.
It is possible she has more than depression...she could be sliding into dementia. She would not really be able to communicate this to you (or want to) and she may no longer be able to help herself. Be merciful and patient, as you probably already have been. She needs a diagnosis to discount other causes for her behavior, like a UTI, thyroid, etc. You have the option to take her to Urgent Care or the ER. If she goes to the ER (and you do not have PoA) make sure you let the admin know she doesn't have any care at home and that she would be an "unsafe discharge", This way the hospital social workers will hopefully get involved. If she is diagnosed with dementia, they will find placement for her. She would need to become a ward of the county (if no one is her PoA), and they will manage all her medical and financial affairs, and take control of her accounts. Family will no longer have any insight or ability to make decisions on her behalf. But she will be cared for. Just so you know.
Your profile says that your mom is only 66 years old. That's awful young to be having incontinence issues, and mobility issues. And the fact that you have your 4 children living in the "biohazard" along with yourself and your "man" tells me that mom has got to go. If she can't care for herself, then she can move into an assisted living facility, using her money of course. And if money is an issue she will have to apply for Medicaid and look for a facility that accepts that. 6 years is an awful long time to be mourning her husband. It has to be more than that. Has she been diagnosed with depression, and is she on any kind of antidepressants? If not, make sure she gets in to see her doctor so that issue can be addressed. You now have to do what's best for you and your children, and if that means mom has to leave then so be it. No child should be raised in that kind of filth.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
This behavior is so unacceptable when living in someone else's house.
If she was living alone APS would intervene for self neglect. You don't want them saying you are negligent in her care, so call and ask for help before someone else does.
If she just wants to give up and die, well, that is her choice but, NOT in front of your children.
If she can't care for herself, then she can move into an assisted living facility, using her money of course. And if money is an issue she will have to apply for Medicaid and look for a facility that accepts that.
6 years is an awful long time to be mourning her husband. It has to be more than that. Has she been diagnosed with depression, and is she on any kind of antidepressants? If not, make sure she gets in to see her doctor so that issue can be addressed.
You now have to do what's best for you and your children, and if that means mom has to leave then so be it. No child should be raised in that kind of filth.
Is her depression treated? With therapy, exercise & medication? Is her diabetes well controlled?
Has there been a recent checkup on her mental & physical health?
If not, what are the barriers stoping this?
Have you discussed this issue, the mess, your concerns with her?
What does she say?