have a live in aid for my mom. But my mom still calls me about 20 times a day. I have cameras so I know everything is ok. The live in aid just started five days ago. My mom says she likes the aids. they are sitting there when she calls. I thought by getting the aid this would stop. my mom has dementia. so I can talk to her hang up and she will call again saying she hasn't spoken to me. thanks again for all your help here.
Yes, have the aide distract Mom from making the calls if she can do so without getting Mom agitated. Otherwise let her call you and talk to voice mail. The aide can comfort her when she can't reach you. "Your daughter must be too busy to answer the phone now. But you know that she will call you after lunch."
I know that with my loved one, she always worried if she couldn't get through by phone., but she understood if someone was at work and couldn't talk. That would appease her worry for awhile at least.