mom is 94 and in the last few days has stopped talking, she acts like she hears but just wants to stay in bed and not eat or drink, she has a lot of confusion and goes back in time a lot but lately has just not wanted to talk even to the nurses she has had for over 2 years now.
To the thread about losing everything and existing in poverty as a result of paying for the spouse's care. Yup, it sucks. But because you are poor does not mean you are nothing. Your quality of life will be to a big extent what you make of it. Try not to build yourself a living hell after your spouse departs. Go to church, make new friends whereever you are living, volunteer, be kind. You are not just only your money and your possessions.
I know that dementia patients can have some symptoms from various stages of the illness, but this particularly raises my curiosity. I have noticed that in the Memory Care Unit, where my cousin resides, there are more than several residents who have been there for at least a year in the same condition. They are wheelchair bound, they do not speak or look at anyone who speaks to them. They don't appear to even know where they are. Yet, they have survived since she went to live there and that was at about 9 months ago. How is this possible?
I wish you peace during these hard times. God Bless . . .
My mother passed when I was only 17 years old, she was 57. I would sell my soul to have had a mother, that lived into her 80s and 90s. Whether she had all her facilities or not.
You people have been so lucky to have all the years you did have, when they were in their right frame of mind. How dare you complain, because all they do is watch TV, or embarrassed/humiliated you!
For three years I took care of a friends mother with dementia. I became very close to her. Yes, she assaulted me, punched, scratched (I have the scars). Being I lost my mother so young, I took it with a grain of salt.
She passed away December 2014, peacefully in her sleep at a nursing home. They were wonderful to her, but I felt guilty, because I felt as if I couldn't do it anymore. I wish I would have stuck it out.
From what I've read, some of you are going to be in the same shoes, your loved ones are in right now. Do you think your children will be able to handle it?
Don't give up so quickly ... I know it's hard, try to understand ... And make arrangements for yourselves, being some of you have family history, with this very illness.
Think about what I've said, please. God Bless all of you . . .
IT IS NOT RIGHT EITHER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
For the lady whose husband is 94. My Mom is 87 and I don't think its fair thatshe has to live this way for the rest of her life.
As wamnan said, she missed the sound but another person wishes their spouse would shut up!! I loved my husbands deep beautiful voice, one of the many things that made me fall in love with him.