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She may well be dying and I've told her that she is free to go if she has to. I've offered prayers and companionship but she wants to just lay in bed until it happens.
However, she may just be wishing for death and not be at the stage of death yet. She's been ready to go as her dementia gets worse.
She's not in pain but weak and doesn't want to get up.
Any suggestions?

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I think she just has to keep on living until she stops - in other words treat her as you normally would as much as possible. Getting up (even briefly), washing, eating (whatever she likes and however much or little she is willing to take), toileting (if she still does) can all contribute to helping her feel better physically and as long as it isn't causing her pain and she isn't actively resisting your ministering to her needs can bring comfort to you both. You will know soon enough whether this is her new normal or a final decline 🤗
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You could maybe get a consult with hospice? Ask her doctor.
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It may be time to get hospice involved at this point, as she may very well be dying. Vascular dementia is the most aggressive of all the dementias, with a life expectancy of only 5 years, so depending on how long she's had it, it may be her time.
My husband who was diagnosed with vascular dementia in 2018,(although I know he had it at least a year before he was diagnosed)died in Sept. 2020. My husband was under hospice care in our home for the last 22 months of his life, and towards the end of his life he was sleeping around 18 hours a day, if not more.
It also sounds like she may be suffering from depression as well. Have you addressed that? If not, you may want to, and see if she becomes more alert and active.
I wish you and your mom the best, and I would certainly call hospice to see if she qualifies at this point.
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