She has Alzheimer’s. Her previous memory care told us to have her admitted to a hospital, which we did. She has been in a locked psych unit for two months, not because she needed to be there this long, but because several places have refused to take her because of her history of bad behavior. The staff said another reason for the long stay is that COVID contributed to staffing issues everywhere. Others in this hospital unit have been there a long time, too. Her behavior has improved a lot thanks to medication. I don’t know where she will live long term. Who has experienced a similar situation?
It is unfortunate that you and your family are going through this but it is not unusual (even prior to Covid.) I remember turning down two potential residents whose families desperately wanted them to come to our facility. I felt so powerless and sorry for them but I had 160 other residents I had to protect and our Medical Director, like most, was not a geriatric psych. Playing with behavior meds would have been long and risky for all involved.
Do NOT take her home. Engage the social worker at the current facility to find placement but be warned.... it may not be close to you or what you would choose but it might be the only thing available. Be at peace knowing that you are doing the best you can for her.
Wishing you peace and luck on this difficult journey.
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