My sister that was her main caretaker just passed away unexpectedly. She was an alcoholic and took too many prescription drugs so we’re not sure how she died yet. She was controlling when it came to mom’s care. I was at a lot of the dr appointments and visited weekly but she took care of everything else. Now I'm the caretaker and so confused and overwhelmed. Not only am I grieving the loss of my sister but I have to be strong for my mom. When should I call in hospice and what will it be like?
I would call hospice as soon as possible. People tend to wait too long. In other words they can get support sooner rather than later. There is no advantage to waiting. Perhaps begin by asking for a referral from your mom’s doctor. I found just talking to hospice personnel over the phone helped me immediately. They will come to your home to support your caregiving if that is what you want. There are hospice facilities where mom can be moved and sometimes a special part of some hospitals or nursing homes have hospice.
Your mom will have medical and emotional support regardless of where she receives hospice.
My aunt is on hospice now in her home. My cousin is her caregiver. They provide supplies, medication for comfort and an aide to bathe her.
Another aunt and uncle were in a hospice facility. The care was excellent.
My MIL was in a hospital type setting. In these type settings you are free to visit and be with mom while others tend to her.
It really depends on your mom’s finances and insurance and how much help you need. If you start with home and that isn’t enough you can always move.
The places you call can advise you on next steps and help you make a decision.
Come here often. You will find support here.
Hugs for you and mom.
Here is a link that lists several in your area.
https://everloved.com/hospices/TX/onalaska/
Wishing you every good luck. Wish this was still what it once was with dedicated personnel of every kind at the bedside and frequently in the home. It is not.
https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2020/01/21/789958067/patients-want-to-die-at-home-but-home-hospice-care-can-be-tough-on-families?fbclid=IwAR30FCx2bQwUibBW5PeQxTsXRFRJkb1SfZYJKvMclyE5dZCyre3RIQqKArY
Sending you a prayer for a positive experience with a difficult and emotional situation