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What is her general health and age? Has she ever had eating disorders before? Is she in pain when she eats? Does she have a hernia? Does she suffer with indigestion or gas? Does she suffer from constipation or something that is causing her to avoid food? Is she depressed?
I think I would start with her doctor and let them run blood work and eliminate what he might be causing the lack of appetite. Hopefully, they can figure it out. Maybe, she'll tell the doctor what is wrong. I would watch her responses carefully. One sign of dementia is refusing to eat. It was a stage my cousin went through. She eats now, but for awhile, she hardly ate anything. I know quite a few dementia patients who barely eat. Some of them forget how to chew or swallow. Sometimes the body can't process the food and so it stops the desire to eat.
There are so many things that could be going on. Without medical consult, I'm not sure you will be able to figure it out, unless she tells you.
Thank you sunnygirl for being so kind. Some arent so nice. Her eating issues have been for about twrlve days. As of her last appt about six wks ago. Believe it or not labs were good. She has always been a stubborn person. But Im not sure why she is not eating now. She will try to get out of drinking if she can. Says she will keep going to the bathroom. Unbelievable huh? Not weak, as a matter of fact I do not understand how she can go from bdroom to family room to bathroom and again and again with very little fluids and food. If she doesnt want something she will make sure you know it. At the drs office I know she will say she is ok so she can go home. One other caregiver thought maybe there was friction going on but not so. About three months ago an er visit for dizzyness. Ended up dehydrated. Also ran an ekg that was fine then. Back to the eating subject, i dont understand what is going on. Three of us put life on hold for her right now. And i just dont think she is very happy with people helping her.Oh yeah she is up all night. How she makes it I dont know
A troll am I really? Because I might be writing things wrong? And i am nervous. Cant ask for advice from some people who have WRONG knicknames for people
Valryn, you've posted essentially the same question at least twice, perhaps more. People have given you answers; another post appears. Perhaps there's some reason why you post the same question repeatedly?
Pam is making an observation that I suspect others have also made.
If I repeated something. It was not intended to be that way. I apologize. I am new to this support line and simply thought I would meet nice people. I have contacted my moms dr. for answers. Thank you for the help you did give me. Again my repetition of questions was not intentional
Val, my mother in law starved herself to death, intentionally. She'd been diagnosed with dementia in her 60's, had various health issues and had sugary for an aortic aneurysm at 80. She came out of the anesthesia very changed, may have had a stroke, refused rehab services and said " I'm going to starve myself to death the way my mom did". (Her mom had Pick ' s Disease.
She stopped eating and drinking and there was not a d*mn thing any of us could do about it.
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I think I would start with her doctor and let them run blood work and eliminate what he might be causing the lack of appetite. Hopefully, they can figure it out. Maybe, she'll tell the doctor what is wrong. I would watch her responses carefully. One sign of dementia is refusing to eat. It was a stage my cousin went through. She eats now, but for awhile, she hardly ate anything. I know quite a few dementia patients who barely eat. Some of them forget how to chew or swallow. Sometimes the body can't process the food and so it stops the desire to eat.
There are so many things that could be going on. Without medical consult, I'm not sure you will be able to figure it out, unless she tells you.
Is she drinking fluids?
Pam is making an observation that I suspect others have also made.
She stopped eating and drinking and there was not a d*mn thing any of us could do about it.