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If Moms room was like my Moms, there is no room for more than what she needs at the facility. Residents are allowed to roam the halls. Going into rooms and picking up other peoples belongings. My Mom was in the common area most of the day. Only in her room to sleep. I didn't even have all her clothes there. I changed out seasonally.
Is your mother aware of the fact that her belongings were given away to relatives and/or donated? And why didn't she keep what she wanted before her things were disbursed? If this happened without her knowledge, I'd question why such a decision was made in the first place. If she knew and approved, then she can't change her mind now, after the fact.
So now you can ask the relatives to return what they were given, if those items will fit in her space at the SNF, or, just buy her some new things to replace the old, I guess. Since you give no details, it's hard to give you a solution to such a question which may not have one!
Early on Mom was in on the decision making and then lost interest in most of the items as she was preoccupied with her illnesses and moves. I have POA and had a deadline with her vacating her apartment. Now that she is settled, I believe she has more time to think about friends who she did not give anything to and/or she has changed her mind.
Tell her there was a deadline, she was otherwise occupied, so as POA you did what needed to be done. Ask if she wants to buy something to replace something she misses now, or a gift for anyone else. Just downplay it, no drama.
I went through this with my mom, who was a hoarder. Not trash hoarding, but everything else that could be bought. She had a few of those reborn dolls that I kept (actually fought with family members who wanted them) and a few trinkets & pictures that I knew were special and took to her facility. I had to explain to her dozens of times that we kept what she had room for in her new residence (nursing home). She had so many clothes, shoes, and purses it was unreal. And a lot of it was packed so tightly in her house with no air conditioning running (she refused) that they were moldy and HAD to be thrown out.
Sounds exactly like my Mom...addicted to shopping and a hoarder but she could not afford it, so myself and another family member lent her thousands of dollars to pay off the credit cards. Granted, some things came from second-hand stores as well, but way more than she needed!
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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So now you can ask the relatives to return what they were given, if those items will fit in her space at the SNF, or, just buy her some new things to replace the old, I guess. Since you give no details, it's hard to give you a solution to such a question which may not have one!
Sometimes it's more about a fondness for an item & the attached memory rather than actually having & using that item again.
See if discussing the happy memories about the best dinner set, the wedding present vase etc helps.
My Grandma was pleased her dining room furniture had a new home with a new family.
I went through this with my mom, who was a hoarder. Not trash hoarding, but everything else that could be bought. She had a few of those reborn dolls that I kept (actually fought with family members who wanted them) and a few trinkets & pictures that I knew were special and took to her facility. I had to explain to her dozens of times that we kept what she had room for in her new residence (nursing home). She had so many clothes, shoes, and purses it was unreal. And a lot of it was packed so tightly in her house with no air conditioning running (she refused) that they were moldy and HAD to be thrown out.