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My 91 y.o. MIL wouldn't use a cane initially either (she has since progressed to a 2W walker) so I found an attractive umbrella (standard sized) with the traditional curved handle and put a cane tip on the pointed tip. It worked for a long while and she didn't feel it was a conspicuous as a cane. She, too, didn't want to appear to be "old".
A lot of great tips above! As an OT I see this all the time. That is one reason I started my store, Ease Living, to provide beautiful products that promote dignity, independence and safety. My grandmother died in her mid 90s and refused to wear GLASSES because she thought it made her look old! I've had glasses since I was 6!!
We started with a standard cane. She hated it, but we reminded her every single time she got up. It was always falling over or she couldn't rememeber where she left it. So we bought her a cane with the legs so it would stand on its own. Once she started tripping on it and using it wrong, it became dangerous. We hid the cane and introduced her to a walker with wheels. We just tell her she has to use it. She has fallen, luckily on carpet, so we just remind her that she has fallen and she has to use it because we dont want her in the hospital. It is just a constant reminder.
You can get spiked tips to put on canes to use on ice. I don't mind using my cane it gives me something to trip up other old ladies when they try to push in line at the grocery store.
My dad fell and the doctor in the emergency room sent us home with a quad cane. My dad did not want to look at it, no less use it. He gave me a dirty look every time I asked him where was his cane and why wasn't he using it. Then I got the idea to give the cane the name Gus. I would say to my dad, "where's your friend Gus?" and "you need your friend" and somehow my dad started to use the cane. It probably took about 2 weeks of encouragement on my part and now over 2 years later he still uses the same cane.
My Mom will not use any of the canes we have for her. I am still trying to figure out how to get her to use it. The more I suggest it, but more she resists. I tried using a cane myself so she would not feel so out of place but it started to mess up my leg muscles! Sympathy and stories are great but any Advice?
My mother is 100. Last year we finally got her to use a cane only because she absolutely refuses to use a walker. She has fallen a few times. She lives in AL and they want her to use a walker, but she won't. She tries to go up and down the stairs with the cane. It scares us half to death. She doesn't even use the cane the right way. But she is stubborn, she won't listen to anyone, ever. So, eventually she will fall and end her life bedridden with a broken hip and there is nothing we can do.
Parkinsons, numerous strokes and dementia over the years. When I moved to care for her I got her a wheeled walker but she refused to use it in the house, just hung onto the walls and furniture. Constantly finding her on the floor I eventually could hardly leave the house ... apart from cooking, cleaning, fending off her abuse and calling the ambulance my life was over.
UGH I hear you. Mom landed in the ER 7 times in 2014 for falls. I finally confiscated her cane and left her with only the walker her MD said she was supposed to use. She was angry, but you can't give in on safety issues.
My Mom was resistant to using a cane, too.... heaven forbid if someone saw her using a cane, they might think she was old [she's 97]. No matter how old a person gets, they are still self-conscience about how they are portrayed to others. Usually it takes a person getting hurt in a fall to convince them to use either a cane or rolling walker.
By the way, a cane is terrible on ice.... she being 90 and needing something to help her walk, it is better she stay indoors until the weather get better. If she needs to get out and about, have someone meet her at her home to help her on the snowy icy walkways.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
My grandmother died in her mid 90s and refused to wear GLASSES because she thought it made her look old! I've had glasses since I was 6!!
By the way, a cane is terrible on ice.... she being 90 and needing something to help her walk, it is better she stay indoors until the weather get better. If she needs to get out and about, have someone meet her at her home to help her on the snowy icy walkways.