My 75 yrs old Mother had a heart attack and 2 stokes in Aug. 2011. She stayed 1 month in the hospital, and 6 months in a nursing home doing rehab. She has been diagnose with dementia. She gets around mostly in a wheel chair she can manage a walker in small areas. She is refusing to stay in a nursing center. She wants to go home. She sayes she is going at the end of Feb. 2012 even if the Dr doesn't release her. My Mother is very stubborn, how she has always got her way in life is to wear people down till they give in. My 2 sister and 1 brother and my self have refused to take her home from the nursing center. The nursing center said that if she leaves without the Dr. ok that she can not have home health aid come in to help. Our problem as far as her going home is that home health aid only does 2 hours a day 4 days a week. So that leaves a good 20 hrs that Mom will be there by her self. There will be no one to give her her medicine, she is on 4 heart med. for blood pressure and cumin which has to be tested weekly. Not including the 7 others I can't spell. My Mother has decided that she doesn't need to wear depends. So you know what that means. My brother doesn't live here and me and 1 sister work full time and wouldn't be able to do any help until after 6 in the evening. That is when we are usally home cooking dinner and taking care of our family. So that leave 1 sister whos schedule is more free and her husband work 4 weeks out of town and 1 week home. She leaves alot to go stay with him. I just feel like the nursing home is dropping the ball. Shouldn't they know how to deal with people like her. Instead their trying to get us to take home a person that can't take care of her self.
One big problem is we had to pay for her care, but her insurance would pay for the nursing home.
Good luck.
But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. 1 Timothy 5:8
I'm glad that taking care of your grandmother has worked out for you. But there are many other options that can work well for others.
You unkind words and self righteousness serves no purpose.
She stills blames me but i keep telling her "you are the one who told me to call 911"! Nothing will change buuuuuut be prepared for the consequences if you take her out AMA....
On another note, see how she is being treated. I would not suggest asking her, but I would stay for a day and hangout. What time do they get her up, how does meal time go, is she sedated all the time, is she kept clean and the general appearance of the facility. I used to teach as class called "Understanding Memory Care". If your mother is acting out and wants to go home, there is probably a reason. The program tought the staff to not look at things they do as "behaviors", but "needs". Is she eating enough, drinking enough, toileted or changed when needed, is she too hot or too cold,is she staying busy and active? People with Dementia have "behaviors" when their needs are unmet. Encourage her to participate in as many actvities as possible. If we keep them preoccupied, they are less often to get agitated. I noticed on the dementia unit where I worked, they just wanted some attention....someone to talk to. I always stopped and chatted whenever possible.
I hope this is helpful.
Mamanik: We can look after our relatives without having them live with us. It sounds like your Grandmother was in a terrible place and I commend you for taking her in and improving her life. It's not your place, however, to kick everyone else to the curb with you biblical interpretations. Helping our families or others in need is God's work, but it can be done in many fashions.