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I don’t know if you remember me saying in December and January how sick dad was. Really confused, hard to awake, speech impaired and hoarse, weak, getting to the point of being bed ridding, etc. Fast forward to January I learned that dad had got sent to the hospital and that adult protection had been out and took pictures. Nope! No call of mine to adult protection.


Well I was instead of unhappy that they had come out, I was happy because the hospital put dad in the hospital for a few weeks (right at 4). Upon release last Friday, you would think you were talking and seeing a totally different man. Back to talking clear (not hoarse), back to having memory and understanding (no confusion and out of touch from reality), back to eating, and back to walking.


Fast forward to this Thursday (not even a week later), while at work. I get a call saying an ambulance was called at dad's checkup due to a low blood sugar reading. He got admitted to the hospital. Then yesterday, again at work, my sister (the one that never calls and that I have troubles with) rings me at work saying a decision was made and that dad was going in a nursing home.


Reason being - really low blood sugar and doctor suggestion. According to the nursing home, he is to be in there for three weeks for sugar monitoring and rehab. Rehab, he is not going to go from walking to running.


I’ve heard of different reasons people go into a nursing home but never for this reason. Who does not know how to manage low blood sugar? Who in their right mind would agree (during covid) to put their love one in a home unless back up against the wall.


I just don’t understand and something does not add up. My understanding also is that siblings all had to agree before placing someone in a nursing home. Is that not true?

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Don't let this become yet another argument and disagreement with sis. Doctor recommended nursing home to monitor blood sugar and other things. Let it go follow doc's recommendation.

COVID, while still prevalent in many communities, has become more manageable. If he needs the monitoring, he needs it. Rehab would not be appropriate for continual monitoring. Or I imagine you could hire a home nurse at significant cost to follow doctor's orders.

What a nightmare if siblings all had to agree to facility placememnt. Only one, the POA, makes the decision. Be grateful that you were told at all, as the POA is actually required to keep all medical and financial information private.
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OH no argument. But I did cry my eyes out for being blindsided. There is no POA or guardian!!!

Just never heard of someone going in a nursing home due to low blood sugar and figured nursing home suggestion would have came in January if it was needed.

I don't understand what you mean
(Rehab would not be appropriate for continual monitoring)

From speaking with nursing home they are claiming for rehab but now I'm confused even more.

Well when our mother, really needed the nursing home placement due to sepsis, bed wounds, needing feeding tubes, they would not agree to place her. When I called around to present to siblings, I was told consent from siblings was needed.
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Dad lives with an older sibling/sister. The nurses at the hospital before his release said he was eating everything in front of him and was doing great in therapy sessions (trusting what was said). When I would call twice a week just to talk he was making my heart happy he was back to mental reality and it was not just me who came to that conclusion.

My plan was to see him this weekend but now I’ll only get to see him through the window…ugghh but will take what I can get.

I promise you all, I didn’t give anyone a hard time especially not the one who lives with him. It was oh okay and then I reached out to the other siblings (first in long time) and only two knew about nursing home. All others as well as myself did not.

Thanks so much for insight MACinCT!
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Your Dad is a diabetic? Looks like the time in the hospital they were able to stabilize him. Meaning, he was getting his meds when needed and not eating foods he shouldn't be. When diabetes is not managed correctly the person can become lethargic, show signs of Dementia. Even if doing everything correctly, there can be problems. There r brittle diabetics that always have problems keeping stable.

The person directly involved with Dads care needs to be taught how to care for the problem. What foods he should be eating and not eating. There was a reason why he did well in the hospital and not at home.

I have a feeling Dad has been put in Rehab that is attached to a Nursing home. Thats how it is where I live. Rehab will be paid for by Medicare if he has it.
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Dad got transferred to the nursing home this evening. Lesson learned myth that all siblings have to agree. They say he is in the Rehab part although they don't have a separate wing or separate room. He will be mixed in with others.

I'll try to stay strong and hopeful that dad will be okay!

Thanks for all the responses!
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