My husband died two years ago after a diagnosis of a very aggressive cancer. He lived less than three months. I did much better during his illness, death and the immediate aftermath. Now I am angry, anxious, depressed and lonely. I know he didn’t expect to die and I thought he would live “forever.” His mother is 99. He died at a very young 77. He left me with life insurance but no pension. Financial problems seem insurmountable. I miss him so very much. But I am angry at him, too. I count my blessings every day. But I have struggled with so much loss — my mother died a year after my husband. I was her caregiver until the end. I am just lost. All the online grief support groups charge fees. Does any know of any that don’t. I can’t even find a grief forum here. Thank you.
I am sorry for your losses and I can imagine how hard it gets as reality sets in and then money becomes an issue. We can help you know how to look for local resources and some of the great members here will do research and name names for you.
Welcome and I hope you find a home here to help you get through this trying time.
Being a caregiver yourself, you no doubt have wisdom and advise you too can share.
Hugs, you have been through the ringer.
The local grief group run by the hospice was very helpful to me and to my husband, who joined in later, after we lost our daughter to suicide. I think one of the local churches (the biggest one here) also runs a grief group.
I favor a moderated group over an unmoderated one.
Best wishes to you!
I bet it is hard for you being the one that everyone depends on to get them through the hard times. Always having to keep a stiff upper lip is no fun.
I wish I could just give you a great big long hug (((((((hug))))))).
You sound like a tough lady and you will get through this difficult journey. And I believe that you will be stronger on the other side.
Maybe you can start a group, you know you are not the only one grieving and financially unable to pay for help. Sometimes it's as simple as not having to paste a smile when you really want to be sad or need to be angry or whatever. Just being able to be, in a safe place.
My heart is with you today. May you find one thing that touches your heart in a positive way and gives you a heart felt smile.
Hugs!
The local grief group run by the hospice was very helpful to me and to my husband, who joined in later, after we lost our daughter to suicide. I think one of the local churches (the biggest one here) also runs a grief group.
I favor a moderated group to an unmoderated one.
Best wishes to you!
I agree with Isthisrealyreal. Be a caregiver. You said yourself that you did much better while caring for your husband, during his illness. There are many people at the beginning of their changing life who would be so happy when you walk in the door to relieve them. You'll make a bit of cash, feel a sense of purpose, lose your fear for a few hours and fill a need for someone in stress.
I miss my Dad so much. Next week it will be a year. Seems like yesterday...
Grief endures and morphs. Your anger is expected. It's one of the stages of grief and there is no order and no timeline. It's your life and you'll go through it in your own way. We are here for you.
My best to you-
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