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He,s afraid that somehow electricity will get in the water. Even on a nice sunny day he is still afraid of electrical storms. Is this normal? (He was an electrician, but that was years ago.)
It doesn't surprise me that aspects of his former profession remain with him today, especially the dangerous ones such as electrical contact with water. It's a precaution of which he would have been very aware, and that heightened alertness was probably with him every time he worked with electricity.
It sounds almost like a PTSD episode that soliders have when something triggers a flashback to a combat experience.
The stroke may have caused him to revert back to his days of guarding against water and electrical contact. Were there any other changes after his stroke?
Personally, I think the issue of older people bathing on the same schedule as active younger people is a misguided one. They're not as active, don't get as dirty, have drier skin and don't need to bathe as often.
Still, he does need to keep clean. I would try sponge baths or some of the cleaning cloths used in hospitals and facilities. Find some dry shampoo for his hair. Someone posted somewhere else with an excellent idea; I don't have any recollection who it was or what thread, but it showed remarkable insight and compassion.
This woman took compassionate bathing to a high level. She would integrate a talk session with, for example, washing hair, or possibly washing the upper body. This was followed with some relaxing activity. Then at a different time she worked on a different body area.
It spreads out the anxiety by eliminating whole body bathing or immersion, precedes and follows with soothing care and conversation. It was more of a soothing social experience than a hygienic one.
For someone who's had a stroke and may be experiencing less flexibility in one or more bodily areas, I would think that whole body immersion in a bathtub or shower could very well be terrifying.
Last year I had a bad knee injury which rendered me unable to walk without reliance on a makeshift cane. It was my first experience with that kind of intense injury - usually for me it was just sprains, strains, pulled muscles. Last year I could hardly even stand on my alone, and I was frightened.
Suddenly mobility became a major, challenging and frightening issue. I had to think through every move to ensure that I was close to hand holds, wouldn't slip, and that there was something to hang onto if I did slip. Movement from one room to another became a strategic plan.
Bathing was out, even though I had grab bars. I was afraid to stand on one foot just to lift the other out of the tub.
But I hoped it would be temporary. For someone with a stroke, I can't imagine how frightening it must be.
Eventually your husband may become more used to bathing again, but this will help him keep clean in the meantime and avoid the fear of electricity mixing with water.
Alternatively, you might ask him to check out the bath and shower area to ensure there's no possibility of electricity making contact with the water. If he's still fearful, drop the issue for now and move to the earlier suggestions. There's no point in upsetting him at this stage of his life.
Are there other things that you need help with? Can he transfer ok, incontinence etc? Those things may require that you need help with him at home, rather than placing him out of the home. If it gets to that point, what else can he do but accept it and make you miserable about it. Happens a lot
If he was an electrician, I would hope the bathroom is equipped with ground fault interrupters (GFI). Maybe that was something he meant to do. Have one of his electrician buddies check that out. Get them done if you need them. And have the Pro assure him it's all good.
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Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
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APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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It sounds almost like a PTSD episode that soliders have when something triggers a flashback to a combat experience.
The stroke may have caused him to revert back to his days of guarding against water and electrical contact. Were there any other changes after his stroke?
Personally, I think the issue of older people bathing on the same schedule as active younger people is a misguided one. They're not as active, don't get as dirty, have drier skin and don't need to bathe as often.
Still, he does need to keep clean. I would try sponge baths or some of the cleaning cloths used in hospitals and facilities. Find some dry shampoo for his hair.
Someone posted somewhere else with an excellent idea; I don't have any recollection who it was or what thread, but it showed remarkable insight and compassion.
This woman took compassionate bathing to a high level. She would integrate a talk session with, for example, washing hair, or possibly washing the upper body. This was followed with some relaxing activity. Then at a different time she worked on a different body area.
It spreads out the anxiety by eliminating whole body bathing or immersion, precedes and follows with soothing care and conversation. It was more of a soothing social experience than a hygienic one.
For someone who's had a stroke and may be experiencing less flexibility in one or more bodily areas, I would think that whole body immersion in a bathtub or shower could very well be terrifying.
Last year I had a bad knee injury which rendered me unable to walk without reliance on a makeshift cane. It was my first experience with that kind of intense injury - usually for me it was just sprains, strains, pulled muscles. Last year I could hardly even stand on my alone, and I was frightened.
Suddenly mobility became a major, challenging and frightening issue. I had to think through every move to ensure that I was close to hand holds, wouldn't slip, and that there was something to hang onto if I did slip. Movement from one room to another became a strategic plan.
Bathing was out, even though I had grab bars. I was afraid to stand on one foot just to lift the other out of the tub.
But I hoped it would be temporary. For someone with a stroke, I can't imagine how frightening it must be.
Eventually your husband may become more used to bathing again, but this will help him keep clean in the meantime and avoid the fear of electricity mixing with water.
Alternatively, you might ask him to check out the bath and shower area to ensure there's no possibility of electricity making contact with the water. If he's still fearful, drop the issue for now and move to the earlier suggestions. There's no point in upsetting him at this stage of his life.