I am trying to figure out what would be most appropriate for the frequency of visiting Alzheimer's parent. They are stage 6. They still know who I am. We have never had a good relationship and my childhood was abusive. It takes me about an hour each way to get to the facility and back. I also work 50 hours a week so have little spare time. I am feeling like initially once every two weeks and then dropping to once a month. What about others?
I visit her for ME, not her. I didn't see or talk to her for 8 months last year as I went through a grueling chemotherapy for cancer, and when I finally emerged out the other side and started to feel human, I went to see her. She wasn't even AWARE that I had not spoken nor seen her for over 8 months.
I think every other week is fine. No need to burn yourself out when she isn't even cognizant of the passage of time.
Good luck!
Now that they have acclimated we visit every other week unless we have to take them for a medical procedure. We do hover over them, they have adjusted well.
They have their own life as do we.