Siblings are causing problems for the POA. They are trying to override the POA when it comes to performing the duties designated in the POA. The POA named in documents are Durable Health Care POA and General POA. The siblings have caused a loved one to get removed from a facility and also caused that same loved one to get refused by a facility from being able to be admitted to a facility. What can the POA do to stop those that will not/refuse to accept the POA and the decisions the POA makes for the loved one. How can the POA get emails or documents sent to facilities by those trying to cause such problems. The stress is over-bearing for the POA.
Where you will come into problems is when the elder him or herself is able to make decisions. If the elder is competent, and expresses a wish to leave the facility, then they may do so with the assistance of anyone they choose, including the siblings.
Have you spoken with the siblings?
If this continues, then you may want to get guardianship. As POA, IF the individual is no long competent, the estate pays for you to pursue guardianship. Guardianship or conservatorship will make VERY CLEAR who is in charge.
Again, if an incompetent elder is in LTC you need to be certain that the LTC facility has copies of documents.
That would include interference with proper medical care, unauthorized use of funds (if that's occurring), but emphasis could be on the interference, and potential medical and/or legal consequences if it continues. It should also be stated that the meddling individuals have NO legal authority, and would be held liable for any actions or negative issues arising from the interference. Hinting at blame for medical repercussions could help get the message across.
In the meantime, the attorney should notify the involved facilities that contact should only be with the designated proxy; a copy of the POA documents would be sent to verify that authority.
If the meddling continues, the attorney could apply for a restraining order for the proxy, preventing the meddlers from any contact at all with the elder person, as well as restraining the meddlers from involvement at any level.
This is harsh, but sometimes people just don't get the message.
Has mom's doc declared her incompetent? If not, then mom can do as she pleases with whom she pleases.
Are they visiting mom regularly?
Is she getting more visitors in this new facility?
If you are concerned that they are only doing this to make you miserable and not so they have easier access to mom, then it is time to go for guardianship and then you truly have the power to shut them down. Because I think that something is missing in your POA for them to be able to do what they have done. Every facility that my dad was in, I had ALL the authority as the POA and I could cut contact with anyone at any time, if that contact endangered my dad I would not have hesitated. Just because I didn't get on with the person(s) didn't make any difference, because I was obligated to act as he would have for himself when he was of a sound mind.
I would recommend that you do everything you can to find a way to work together for the benefit of your mom. It sounds like a pizzing match from what you describe and no court is going to be happy with a family using a vulnerable senior as a pawn to be in power. Yes, you have the legal authority (if granted in your POAs) and you do not have to share anything with anyone, unless it is something that your mom always did and it is in her best interest. You are supposed to act as they would if they were able to in their right mind.
Put it in writing that you want to work out the best situation for mom and all of her children, because at the end of the day, your mom's wellbeing, not her financial situation, is what matters.
You really need to worry about what is best for your mom, even if it causes you a bit of time. Especially if it means that she is getting more visits by being at a different location. I personally think that the "reviews" are misleading and do not always translate into better care. So that doesn't impress me that the facility you want is 5 star.
Please try to work for your mom's wellbeing and let go of the power struggle. If they are harming her then the courts will decide what is in her best interest.
Contact the BAR association and request a list of licensed attorneys that handle guardianship.
I wouldn't go into all the drama, I would tell them that you need to be able to protect your mom and the facilities are NOT honoring your authority as DPOA and it is endangering your mom's wellbeing. I would also file complaints against these facilities for not honoring the legal document and allowing others to risk moms welfare. Because having both DHCPOA and DPOA gives you the authority to say those sisters can not speak with the facility or mom.
I know in AZ you can admit someone anonymously, meaning that nobody can call and find out if they are there. I would do that to keep them from harrassment of future facilities.
As far as the desired facility that "changed" their minds. I would think that you dodged a bullet. If they are this flippant about communication, what would happen when she was in their care and you had issues or questions?
Have you checked into board and care facilities that might be closer to you?
I know how stressful this is, it comes through your words like a flash flood. Please, for your sake, breathe and calm down before speaking with anyone else. Nobody wants to deal with someone that comes across as hysterical. I am not saying you are. You just come across as being so and that works against you. You must be the voice of reason, even if you scream and cry after any contact you must come across as the coolest cucumber in the room while you are dealing with people to get this dealt with.
My prayers are with you that you find a good attorney and a facility that meets your mom's care needs and makes her feel at home.