My 91 year old father lives with me now due to severe dementia. I have tried all kinds of things to keep his bed dry but every morning I must strip everything and wash it. He has a hospital bed and I use multiple washable and disposable pads. When I’ve tried to wear a diaper on him he takes it off in the night and I find it thrown on the floor, if he leaves it on it’s so full it’s overflowed. He is unable to get up alone and go to the bathroom or a commode since he would be getting up 20 times in a night and his strength and balance are very poor. It’s an unnatural feeling for him to simply let it go in a diaper so I got him a urinal with a bag attached like a cath bag. It’s about a quart full each morning but the bed is also sopping wet. The doctor’s only advice was to restrict liquids but that has not helped and he does not understand why he’s not allowed to have water when he wants it. Seems cruel, especially in warm weather. He is unable to learn new skills or remember to even look at a note I’ve written. He has no idea what’s causing it but I suspect he wets while he’s asleep part of the time and uses the urinal part of the time. Anyone had a problem like this?
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If this is the problem I would check out one made for women, more room to get it right.
Maybe getting up to use a bedside commode might work better than the urinal (which he is likely trying to use while lying in bed), combined with a good pull up brief.
Just trying to think about how to keep him dry.
I used to cry when I had to do 5 loads of laundry on top of everything else I had to do that day.
The incontinence was my deal breaker. I just couldn't deal with a 300# man that needed that level of care.
Good luck. I know how much that sucks.
My adult son has severe autism and functions at about a 2-3yr old level. I use to call him The Pee Houdini. Rainman could soak his pajamas, sheets, blanket, comforter, sometimes his pillow and yet the nighttime diaper would be bone dry! It was beyond frustrating.
My son is much better these days - KNOCKING WOOD - I’m almost afraid to write this, least I jinx it!!! I think a large part is the result of a technique called Trip Training which is frequently used with kiddos like my son - but which unfortunately, I do not think will work for you. Also my hubby leaves for work before the sun is up - so at roughly 4am he gets Rainman up and takes him to the bathroom. The other thing I do is no liquids after 6pm. Rainman accepts that usually but I agree that is harder in your situation.
Another post asks about diuretics. I’ll ask specifically about the Congestive Heart Failure prescription Lasix. My father HATED it cause it had him up peeing all night. Eventually, my father accepted a bedside urinal as stairs were involved to get to the bathroom. But eventually the lack of sleep got to him and he started playing fast and loose with his medication - taking it all at once in the morning or not taking it at all, which lead to even worse problems than having to pee all night!
Anyhoo - I realize I’ve probably not been any help - sorry. But I did want to let you know that I feel for what you’re going through and to say - eventually, this too shall pass.
I would immediately buy the condom catheters if you think the doctor's office will not prescribe it for him. They should though because he is incontinent. If your dad will not pull it off then you will wake up with dry sheets at least 90% of the time and he won't get bed sores and ulcers from the damp urine piercing his skin. My dad had a hip fracture in 2014 and ever since then he lost his ability to ambulate. He was able to get the urinal through out the night and relieve himself. But in 2017 he lost use of his left arm. We would change him in the morning but he was usually soaking wet and then came bed sores. He got so depressed it affected his appetite because his bottom sores were not healing. Whomever stayed the night then had to start getting up 3-5 times to place the urinal and wait until he finished peeing. It felt as if we were doing bottle feedings with newborns. Condom catheters have been a life saver for us. After much research we came across this as an option and his doctor said matter of factly, they would be a good idea after I asked about them. Please get them for your loved one. If they are not approved you can still buy them without a prescription and just attach the urine bag to the end of the condom catheter. Find the right size. We use Coloplast with my dad and they are very sticky so they stay in place well the majority of the time. We get to sleep through the night just occasionally repositioning him.... The cost of these catheters may be less than a dollar a day and the piece of mind of sleeping through the night and not having to wash urine sheets would be more than well worth the price. Tell your doctor about his incontinence and I would think it will get covered. Good Luck!!!