My husband has liver cancer that has metastasized to his bones, the docs say 6 months or less. Right now he is still able to dress, bath and feed himself but there are a lot a opioid medications to try and get his pain under control.
During the pandemic I worked from home full time, he just needs someone to monitor his medications and give occasional help. I need to save my FMLA for when he can no longer do for himself and we have limited resources so hiring a nurse for me to go into the office is unrealistic. Hospice has come in but they do not provide a nurse for a full day without cost to me.
That is pretty much all you can do. There are no laws that say an employer has to accommodate an employee. Please update on how it works out for you.
Can you hire caregivers to come in and do what needs to be done while you are at work?
IF you are the one to hire and you do NOT go through an agency you can instruct someone to give medication to your husband. Given the fact that you have VERY strong medications I would be very careful about who you hire. If your husband can physically pick yo a small cup with pills in it and take it it is possible that a caregiver from an agency could do that. But they can not hand the medication to someone.
I found 2 very good caregivers through the local community college. They had just completed their CNA course and were waiting for the Nursing School Schedule to start. Both were very competent, and kind, and they liked working with 1 person rather than in a facility where they would have had many more.
If your husband is a Veteran the VA may provide a Home Health Aid that can do some things. Again not sure if they can actually give a medication or just instruct your husband to take it.
Your option with your employer would be to take vacation time if you have any as well as use your sick time. Would you be able to work 1/2 day in the office and take vacation or sick the other half? Would they let you work from home half day and in the office the other half.
Work with HR and see what option they might have.
Also you can ask if "time donation" from other employees is an option. If you get quite a few people to "donate" a vacation day to you that might help when taking time off.
One other suggestion. If you are a member of a local church or other religious group ask if there are any retired nurses or others that would like to come sit with your husband while you are at work. If there are several it might mean 1 day a week that someone would have to be there.