My grandmother (80) has been depressed for a couple years. I am her in house care giver and after 3 years of grieving, and discussions we have decided she needs something she can find passion in. She has tremors which complicates things a bit. She used to enjoy knitting, crocheting, walking, and reading which she still does but it only assists her in disconnecting herself from life. Im wondering if anyone out there has some ideas i can try with her to help her find something to be passionate about again. Thank you in advance fpr any ideas
I could see that reading novels might have that effect. But what about nonfiction? Would she enjoy some of the Chicken Soup books? What were her reading interests years ago?
Can she walk, w/ or without a walker? If so, you could start with short walks around your neighborhood. Or go to a small city/community park where she could also walk short walks.
If she's wheelchair bound, you could take her to museums or libraries. Libraries also use volunteer help. She'd have a chance to interact with people as well.
Even if she doesn't do needlework, do you think she'd enjoy some of the groups that meet at libraries or book stores (Borders used to have these), or would it be a reminder of what she can no longer do?
I think in order to make better suggestions, it would help to know more about her interests. Is she interested in foreign affairs, politics, ecological movements, animal care?? Did she work and if so what did she do?
There are also activities at senior centers. And depending on her stamina and mobility, activities which help others can be very inspirational. Packing food for distribution at senior centers or food pantries can be done sitting down. Again, if she's mobile, you could volunteer to deliver for Meals on Wheels and take her with you on nice days. She could meet and greet the shut-ins.
Charities and churches often need volunteer help, sometimes in preparing for various events. Hospitals can use volunteers as well.
A lot depends on her mobility. Is she taking meds for the tremors?
For example, she enjoys knitting and crocheting. Instead of knitting everyone in the house green flowered sweaters over and over (which I totally agree can be very disconnecting and mind numbing) I urge you to look to the nearest hospital with a NICU. These hospitals usually accept knitted or crocheted blankets and sometimes little hats, for the babies that appear early or are sick. These soft items can be a huge comfort to a suffering little baby, especially when the family is probably stressed out and suffering watching their little bundle of joy. People in their lives often have not made the blankets for the babies yet, as they have come very early or unexpectedly.
Your gram could inquire as to what is needed at the NICU, get the relevant patterns (the blankets for preemies are TEENY TINY so normal baby blanket patters are usually too big). Preemie blankets are so small that they are quick and easy projects to do, and she could do a bunch before delivering them.
When she delivers them to the hospital the staff will make a huge fuss over her and it will make her feel needed and accomplished...which may be what's really missing from her life right now.
I hope this helps.
Angel
I know you said she was going to see her doctor again about her depression. I might also ask about checking her levels of Vitamin B and thyroid, as well as sugar. Just to make sure something like that is effecting her.
And I've read that a schedule is good, exercise, if possible,good diet and plenty of sleep. Does she have a trouble SLEEPING? If that is the case, she might just be very tired during the day. I'd check into that as well.
Many libraries have book clubs. Senior Centers often do.
And it does sound like her med needs adjusting.
So I am so glad you are taking Gram to the doctor and this will get discussed again. There are many, many antidepressants and it is often trial-and-error to find the right one. But it is out there!
The suggested activities, etc, are good to try while a medication is working. They can help a lot, but probably not do the trick alone.
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