Just to rehash the subject................I really dislike how my home is now grand central station and wonder if any of you have that problem.
I appreciate a sitter but can't help but dislike someone wandering around my home when I'm gone. Especially a snoopy relative.
And all the talking when they arrive and then when I get back, they stay and stay to chat. Ugh. Sometimes I wonder if it's worth it.
Then there are meals to prepare.
Last time I sat there at watched her give away her heirlooms to a granddaughter who has NEVER ONCE - before this one time - visited or called or written to her grandmother. Yet, my MIL felt compelled to give away her mother's heirloom china. Go figure. OH WELL!
So, each time the family comes, more 'stuff' goes with them. My husband said he would have liked his mom to ask him if there was anything from the family that he would like - but she never has and she has lived here 9 years.
I guess MIL needs to feel that someone will remember her even if all they remember is who gave them the 'stuff.' :0(
All I can say is we are always glad to see them leave.
I mentioned this to my BIL who says he doesn't want her to go to the hospice facility..... and he will watch her in my house instead.
I don't want him in my house for 7 hours. Is he a horrible person? No............but I don't want him in my house and I don't really trust him. He snoops around and Lord know what else.
I told him that hospice would be a nice change for her and kept her on the schedule. Hopefully he will back down.
My dear husband would be appalled at this :(
He never trusted his brother either.
So the question......
Do you have trouble turning away helpers that you don't want around?
This is not an excuse. You will also need to rest a little yourself after the wedding.
I feel this way after a vacation. The more people around the more work you have to do. Also love the above answer about putting them to work. Things listed as work above are not unreasonable to ask someone to do. Things done of this nature will really be a help for you instead of them just coming into you house and having them watch you love one watching TV. Take the 2 days to regroup for yourself. Those two days will go fast enough.