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In dementia the brain has many disconnected parts. When the frontal lobes are damaged, the patient loses the ability to filter and censor his thoughts and urges. All his primitive instinctual impulses (sexual, aggressive, etc.) become lose. This behavior is more frequently observed in fronto-temporal and vascular dementias. Of course, all past life experiences are archived in the brain and they may color the dementia's symptoms.
Yes, they lose their filters. Anything that comes into their mind comes out of their mouths.
I was at Moms NH visiting. A woman was calling her aide every bad name in the book calling her a whore, using the F word. I walked by and the woman said "what a pretty blue top u have on" I said "thank youcp" she said "your welcome" and then went back to berating the aide.
Really, if they were able to realize what they are saying, they would be so embarrassed.
Sadly this is common in residential settings for elders. In a nursing home, it is usually ascribed to dementia and not in the person's control. If that is true, the insults are distribute randomly. Took care of a minister once - his family were appalled at the words coming from. his mouth. We reassured them we were fine with it, he scattered those words all around him when they arose. If the elder only curses at the care staff, or the non Caucasian staff, or fixates on one particular staff person...then the elder likely does have some control. (based on years of work in geriatric and home care settings.) I was caring for a lovely lady in a lovely home, and her 2x/week HHA went on vacation for 2 weeks. The substitute aide was not the same skin tone as the assigned HHA. She endured 2 weeks of verbal harassment and occasional pinches. She didn't report it to me until afterwards, she knew nothing would be done as it was only 2 weeks. It can be effective to set a boundary with the care recipient - even with some dementia, many elders can learn important limits. Sometimes not. It is worth trying.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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It features Teepa Snow, and can be found on YouTube,
It’s called “Common Issues in Dementia” Teepa addresses the issue you’re asking about, along with many others.
https://youtu.be/u5QMeQpkPhA
I was at Moms NH visiting. A woman was calling her aide every bad name in the book calling her a whore, using the F word. I walked by and the woman said "what a pretty blue top u have on" I said "thank youcp" she said "your welcome" and then went back to berating the aide.
Really, if they were able to realize what they are saying, they would be so embarrassed.
If the elder only curses at the care staff, or the non Caucasian staff, or fixates on one particular staff person...then the elder likely does have some control. (based on years of work in geriatric and home care settings.)
I was caring for a lovely lady in a lovely home, and her 2x/week HHA went on vacation for 2 weeks. The substitute aide was not the same skin tone as the assigned HHA. She endured 2 weeks of verbal harassment and occasional pinches. She didn't report it to me until afterwards, she knew nothing would be done as it was only 2 weeks.
It can be effective to set a boundary with the care recipient - even with some dementia, many elders can learn important limits. Sometimes not. It is worth trying.