I was wondering what other people might do in my situation? I told my story recently under title HORROR STORY RE AGED PARENTS where I told of a massive fallout with my parents aged 92 living in their own home, who, out of the blue, told me they had changed their Wills two years previously and I no longer inherited their house! My father was very abusive to me when I expressed my shock at this development. He also said they had give money to my brother? I have since had a nervous breakdown, and nothing has been resolved. My parents personalities seem to have changed overnight, and they have absolutely no remorse or empathy towards me, and we haven't spoken since May, although they did send me a birthday card and cheque in October which I ignored. I believe they have some level of dementia, but no proof. I have read on an Elder Abuse website that it is a despicable crime when family members exploit old people and manipulate them to change Wills and give them money, in exchange for being able to remain in their own homes. Website suggests that Social Services or Adult Protective Services should be contacted and the matter reported. I wasn't going to do anything as I was too wounded by the loss of my mother, and have protected myself by distancing myself from them and this nightmare, but I keep feeling some anger that I have been treated in this despicable way, and my wound never goes away. I don't know whether I should take some action? My father told me 20 years ago that the house was left to me in their Wills due to the fact that 20 years ago he handed over a limited company of which I was a director, containing assets of £250,000 or thereabouts to my brother without consulting me. Again exploitation by my brother and his wife. I really don't know what to do? Do I forget about them completely and let my parents stab me in the back with impunity, as they appear to have no conscience, or do I take action? My brother is the only Trustee of the Will with the Solicitor, my parents didn't even make me a Trustee as compensation??? Or do I leave them to the mercy of brother and SIL who probably have no idea what is involved in looking after them as they deteriorate further due to possible dementia and escalating frailty? And also I am incensed at the suffering they have caused to my mother, who loved me (her only daughter) and is no doubt still suffering? Please help? Thank you very much.
On the other hand, if the Golden Child of brother & sis in law did manipulate him to do this, where were you then? It honestly does sound like it is all about the money. No one deserves anything no matter what abuse you have put up with in your life. Yes, that is a hard one to swallow, but it is better than anger and resentment which can eat you from the inside out.
Skip the lawyer, go to a therapist. Mine changed my life.
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