My wife had a broken hip a year ago which was fixed but she gave up trying to walk claiming her knees hurt. She recently broke her arm. And during a doctors visit got cortisone in her knees. After being in a rehab center for a month she returns home but does not want to do therapy to walk again. How can I motivate her to do the work to walk again. She is 79
I would discuss with Mom and MD the possibility of trying some low dose anti-depressants.
I know you have been trying. The MD is trying. The rehabs try very hard usually.
The sad truth is that there may be little you can do to motivate her. Many end their days wheelchair bound.
I am sorry and hope others have some possible answers that bring more hope.
If your wife was in rehab for 4 weeks, what did they do with her to get her back on her feet? I'm confused; you say she broke her arm, but now is not walking. If she's not careful, she's going to be fully wheelchair bound in short order and then what? I'd tell her that if she's choosing that alternative, then she'll have to be placed in Skilled Nursing b/c you won't be put into a position of having to lift her in and out of a wheelchair 24/7.
If she's faced with life in a nursing home OR learning to walk again, that may be the 'motivation' she needs to get up off of her arse and do it!
Good luck!
Since your profile says that you and your wife live in an assisted living facility, the only suggestion I have to "motivate" her would be to threaten that if she doesn't start some PT, that you will have to place her in a nursing facility as you just can't care for her any more like she is, that it's just too much for you.
Perhaps that will start her rethinking things, and give her the motivation she needs. I wish you the very best.