I guess you could call this an obsession but my husband has mild Dementia and he used to smoke an occasional cigar outside NOT in the house. Now he still smokes outside but he will smoke 2 cigars in a day now. If he runs out I buy them at a local store until his arrives in the mail and the day they are expected to arrive he asks me to go to the post office and get them before the mail runs so he doesn't have to wait on the mail. I go because he would just want to drive up there and that would lead to WW III. He also now loves Klondike ice cream bars and will eat maybe 3 in a day. 6pk for $3.98. Cigars $40.00 each order. Thank you
My mom would eat an entire box of ice cream bars in a day. And she is lactose intolerant so I HAD to curtail that behavior and stopped buying ice cream. She would finish one bar, go to the fridge for another within minutes. If I told ner she bad just had one she would get angry saying "I did not!" So easiest solution stop buying them.
She obsesses a lot about other things. I just try to work around them the best I can. She really gets stuck on things, so it can make me crazy after a while.
I got out the board, the iron and even laid a couple of his shirts out on the ironing board in case he came down to check on me. Fully prepared I flopped down on the couch to read a book and even got to take a little nap, it was paradise! Well paradise living is temporary and soon enough I heard him descending the stairs. I dashed over to the ironing board knocking it almost all the way over in my frenzied attempt to become an instant laundress. I was ironing away like a pro by the time he hit the bottom step and then he said, "Why are you out of breath honey?" ....ummmm
"Amy, you don't even have the iron plugged in!"
...Oops
Gladimhere, good little read! Thank you.
JBelle.. Finger pistols lol
I initiated writing things down for dad when it was time for my sister to take over so I could go home for a couple of days (I live an hour from him) I learned the hard way not to let him know I was leaving in advance because he would fret, worry and his confusion would skyrocket but I felt bad about 'pulling the rug out from under him' because he doesn't like it when my sister is in charge, she gets impatient and try's to avoid him (by her own admission) and he knows it. The first time I left him with her, on a moments notice, I came back 3 days later to heartbreak. My sister answered his repetitive questions about where I was and if I was coming back by snapping at him in frustration (Needless to say I fired her and boy was she was glad) He was more anxious than I'd ever seen him, more uncertain, more insecure and his tremors were at an all time high. It took another 3 days to bring him back to a comfort zone. After that I wrote down every detail from my departure to return in a note book and gave it to him an hour before I was to leave. He read it at least 8 times before I left and when I hugged him and told him I loved him at the door his face lit up and he said, "you do love me" and pointed to the notebook....
Aww I'm getting choked up here :-)
Example, he thought he should write a letter to his former primary doctor explaining why he wasn't seeing her any more. I told him he doesn't need to do that, doctors have hundreds and hundreds of patients so losing one isn't going to matter. Gosh this obsession went on for 4 months.
Now that obsession is gone, and Dad is on to something else :P
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