I've talked to several people whose loved ones had a DNR and the home refused giving them pain meds and comfort measures ... well! if you don't want to be resusitated then you obviously don't want ANYTHING !!!
So loved one ends up in pain screaming and moaning ... literally.
No, apparently the family hadn't talked to the doc. Asking them about it now would probably create more sadness.
Family absolutely needs to discuss what a DNR means to and for the loved one.
measures. That is for HOSPICE to do. Why didn’t the family put their loved one ln hospice? A DNR has absolutely nothing to do with the pain meds and comfort care. If you have a DNR, it means you don’t want life saving treatment.
I've encountered several families who seem to have the mistaken belief that once they find a place in an AL or NH that everything will be taken care of, unfortunately that is not the case. While this is usually more of a problem I've noticed in AL even those receiving the higher level of care at a NH need someone who can advocate for them, especially when they've reached a point where they can no longer advocate for themselves.
The problem with your example is that the family was expecting the home (what exactly is that) to step up and deal with end of life comfort care without the families input.
Sometimes they just can't win, damned if they do and damned if they don't.
I think that families should plan on being involved or accept the outcome that was left in someone else's hands.