It all started because his SS check was deposited today.He wanted me to take him to the bank and withdraw 2000.00 for him. When I calmly said "No dad,its not safe to carry around all that money". Thats when he started screaming at me that I was stealing all his money and he was calling the police to have me arrested. This is not the first time he has done this. The last time I had to call 911 because he harmed himself after he worked himself into a frenzy and overturned his wheelchair. Then he wouldn't let anyone help us up. Because of his blood thinner he was a bloody mess from skin tears. After arriving at the hospital he told them I had shoved him and made him fall and we left him home alone all the time and DCF opened an investigation of abuse directed at me. It was unfounded but the caseworker never contacted me again and I have no paperwork about the case. I'm afraid to call for help (he only needs picked up, he has no injuries) because he said he would tell them I pushed him down and I would go to jail. I have 3 people here who have tried to help him and witnessed everything but I'm afraid I'll still go to jail based on his telling them lies. What should I do?
You have done right by your father, but no matter what you will get the brunt of abuse, stress, confusion, guilt, all the bad, no rewards. I found this out the hard way.
Upate on my sitch:
Father moved most of his bullet, gun powder, gun smithing crap last weekend, this was the majority of the furniture and belongings here. He had his co-worker Armed Guard 40ish young man friend help him, the landlord here is helping him store all this crap in the garage here where we live, all a BIG Secret to ME! his daughter, my mother has AGAIN turned on me, she told me last night that (I am threatening to take her money train from her) and she doesn't give a shit if I live or die, she is SO GONNA REGRET THIS.
HE doesn't give a shit about her or me, never has. hence last night I discover someone came in after I left without my knowledge and did plumbing work or perhaps my father did? So I call him at 11pm he is at work 84yrs old employed? as an armed guard. He lies, instead of telling me (either he did the work earlier in the day or he had someone come in when I was out) he lied. Told me to go ask the landlord, so I went over asked the landlord, and this guy is STONED out of his mind, he LIES, then says YOU Don't have to live here!, and why haven't you moved out?
WTF?
of course my father has sold guns illegally to this man and a few select alcoholics that live here, so he is protecting him? IDK
I was very upset, I stated that I live here and that I need to know if someone is coming in the apt when I go out, I have two pedigree cats, and my belongings, we live in the highest crime area in SF Bay area.
All of this lying, distention, just upsets me more. My mother called my father and of course fails to tell me anything to ease my mind.
My father needs a good ass kicking from someone, or major meds, he is the reason all of this occurred, he just won't act normal or like a human being.
He blames EVERYTHING on ME! So does my Mother!
I just asked a simple question.
You are a very strong, understanding daughter. And very determined to care for her father - who does not appreciate it.
Might even help your Dad to get the help he needs. He may still be coherent enough to behave himself around authority figures - but they need to see what is going on other times.
I've always heard "they turn on the one they love most the first".
Best wishes