My brother/mom are narcs. Dad separated and my brother is struggling tkg care of mom but he cut me and dad off. We have no visibility on mom and she’s ignoring my dad and I. I know we’re supposed to cutoff narcs but i dont know what to do. Shes 77 and brother is allowing her to drive. She nvr did. She has bouts of rage and im suspecting onset of dementia. Brother is a cop. Dad is a sweetheart and we’re fine. Do i leave them alone? Mom is stubborn and wont go to dr and brother isnt mkg strong effort to take her. He said he wants to move out and leave her alone in his house last my dad talked to him.
I doubt that you will be able to change their minds about their decisions.
You said yourself that your mom is ignoring you and your dad. Your brother is probably pacifying your mother, which isn’t a sensible attitude.
Has your mom been tested for dementia?
Certainly, your frustration is understandable. I’m sorry that you are going through this with your mom and brother.
Sadly, it will most likely get worse before it is possible to address the issue.
Best wishes to you and your family.
Question, how can your brother be a police officer? They are subject to random drug testing in your County.
Who is your Mom's medical Power of Attorney?