Do all ALZ Assistant Living places charge for everything? Like the one that mom is at?
Ex: Charges us $500 a month to tell mom to bath.
Tells us mom is walking the halls at night. When I ask mom are you still walking the halls at night she answers with No. I know my mom..Mom was living with me prior to my sister moving mom into the Asst Living.
Also, if your mom has just moved, it's very possible that she's behaving differently in her new surroundings than she did in your home. Again, talk with the nursing director about how she's adjusting.
I sense some hurt in your message, maybe that your sister overruled your wishes in moving your mom into an AL? To make the best of a situation you didn't want, get involved at the AL. They aren't to blame for your sister's actions. You and they (if they're a good community) just want your mom to get the care she needs. I agree with LifeIsGood, a good community will be happy to have you spend as much time there as you want. The happiest residents are those whose families feel at home in the community, too.
Thank God for the wonderful hospice angels!