Then they say they can't tend to his needs they want to send him home, the morning before they send him home they take him to er with pnomnia, and ui. They are saying he's comatose so they want to send him home with hospice. They gave him a feeding tube after this month in a half stay .he could stand talk eat before he went in now they want to send him home to die, I need help pls anything u can say.
I am so very sorry. And in all truth, we have no access to records and tests and cannot know what the family is told about what happened to this dear gentleman, nor his age, his basic health overall.
In the elderly a UTI and pneumonia can basically cause sepsis, taking down the vital systems. It sounds as though his gentleman is sadly dying, and as though there was not enough that modern medicine could do for him. Many infections, which attack the elderly who already are compromised, are no longer reactive to antibiotics. My own brother died of sepsis at 84, and I, an RN, was almost relieved he had no longer to suffer his Lewy's dementia diagnosis and fear all the further losses coming at him. My mother died late in life after a fall from which she never recovered. It was first pneumonia, then a UTI from catheterization, then pneumonia, and her systems became compromised, her heart and kidneys failing. She died after only a week in care.
I hope your dear friend's husband has a good hospice team who will keep him comfortable and who will support his wife in her grief and loss.
Is he old enough to have Medicare (65)? If not, is it possible he doesn't have health insurance?
Ui = urinary infection?
Does your friend have adult children who can be called? Does he have a PoA assigned who needs to be involved?
What type of therapy was he in the hospital for? You don't tell us what state/city he lives in. Please fill out the profile so we can have more context and give you the most appropriate recommendations. A few on this forum are retired RNs and often have very helpful advice.