Been thinking about this and what about Christmas I could change to make it better.
If I could have Christmas my way, only kids under 18 would get store bought gifts. Everyone else would get home made gifts or gifts from a thrift store.
Because they would all be gifts from the heart.
Unfortunately, we've had several years of difficult holidays - between my FIL going into the hospital 2 days before Thanksgiving in 2022, trying to punch my DH because we couldn't physically take him home for Christmas 2022 (we brought it to him, but he had NPD and he was very insulted that we didn't move heaven and earth to take him home), Thanksgiving 2023 he was in very bad shape in the SNF, and then 4 days before Christmas 2023 he passed away, and this year for the holidays my grandmother is on hospice. Geez, it sounds like a sob story.
We've done our best to make the holidays as happy as possible in spite of the circumstances.
But if I had to think of the perfect Christmas, I'd probably just say one that isn't laden down with a cloud looming, or an undercurrent of anger or fighting. Just peaceful and slow and happy.
I don't mean to make that sound like a pity party. I just miss those Christmases where we baked cookies and had hot chocolate and watched movies and things were just calmer. And there wasn't a constant sense of urgency over everything.
The Grinch would have taken it all, leaving us only with the tree to gather round singing.
We have a theme, this year Hawiian, last year Greek, we both like to cook so it works out well for us.
Husband and I hated how, as kids, it was rush rush rush off to someone’s house or to get ready for the arriving hungry hoard.
We have a relaxing family day of brunch (still in pjs), presents, games and the grand meal. Our kids are still single but we have had a girlfriend and boyfriend join us. They seemed to appreciate the calm as well.
Christmas Day is at my house, my dad helps me with the prime rib, I love making the sides, my sister in law brings her famous anisette cookies. Even when my mom isn't feeling great, she still feels comfortable enough to join so far. I know all this can change on a dime, so I'm grateful for today. My best friend's dad just went into hospice after a bad stroke so I'm definitely feeling that our time is so limited.
For the past several years for both families we use the "draw names" app and stay within the budget. It works great. There's no drama. My father in law, rest his soul always loved watching "It's a Wonderful Life". I crochet so I try to make something personal for whoever's name I have drawn in addition to whatever gift they have put in their wishlist.
I love seeing my nieces and nephew's grow into young men and women. And now there's another baby, a great niece for me, great granddaughter for my parents. My niece on my husband's side is expecting now as well.
Some years we don't celebrate Christmas on Christmas day if that works better for everyone and it's fine.
Our tree is filled ornaments from trips my husband and I or myself and my girlfriends have taken. I love taking them out every year and reliving those adventures.
I'm kind of surprising myself as I write this because I've always been kind of a self described scrooge but in actuality my Christmas Eve and Christmas Day are pretty dang good 🥰
We don't go crazy and I think we all really take the day as an opportunity to be with one another. We have many years of the family photo we take every year with my family, it's fun to go back and look at those.
I wish everyone peace this holiday season.
I wouldn’t mind being the 1999 version of myself either, come to think of it……
But since I can’t time travel, I’m going to spend half the day with the 2024 version of both of us and half the day with family, having a nice potluck meal at my mom’s. DD and GD will come too. It will be pleasant if not perfect and I can’t complain.
Many people do there shopping earlier, and I feel like ugh how do they do that. Personally I think doing shopping this week, that I have been doing is much better, the stores are so pretty, and people have been in a chipper mood, for the most part. Its put me in better spirits, and has been fun. 🎄🎆
Although I'm sure I will breath a sigh of relief when it's over!
Realistically, I'll settle for a break from another crisis happening :-).
No, really…I do appreciate you. You ground me and I thank you for that. I hope you have a wonderful after-Christmas!
I’d love turn back time and live through those sad, sweet years again.
I would go in town every time Christmas came around. Ex was stationed there for a couple of years. I miss the village in Gosheim with the nice cozy homes. It was extra pretty during the snowy season.