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I agree that you should voice your concerns and your mom's wishes for no visitors to the pastor of her church. He can instruct the pushy parishioners that visitation is not an option. If they are sincere in their concern for her, I also like the idea of donations to her care rather than gifts that would go unappreciated. But let the pastor take care of this. You have enough on your plate. Blessings to you for being so kind hearted.
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OP posted an update on May 13th. Her mom doesn’t want any visitors. Only family members will be visiting. The OP has told visitors not to visit.
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When my daddy was in a facility I informed all that visitation was not an option, then I would give updates - like he is doing fine, he is adjusting to his surroundings, he has made a friend. If someone approached me and asked for more info I would just repeat myself. close friends knew more but acquaintances I would just repeat and say thank you for asking. My mama told me once - if people have enough guts to ask - you need to have enough guts to say no! or yes! depending on situation. If they don't like it too bad is my thinking and I'm too old to care.
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It’s a shame that updates aren’t posted in bold giant red letters! LOL 😝

Update from the horse’s mouth!

OP’s mom is NOT going to be receiving any visits from anyone other than family!
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Arkh64: Well-intentioned individuals who are parishioners may have zero data on the disease of dementia, specifically Alzheimer's that you state your mom suffers from on your profile. Your mother has also specified that she does not want any visitors. You've done your part requesting no visitors other than family. If these parishioners don't 'get it,' that's on them or you can inform the church's pastor.
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TouchMatters May 15, 2024
The writer could ' should write a global letter to the church for posting,

"Thank you for your care and concern. My mom, xxx, needs time now to adjust at the facility, and with family. We appreciate your prayers and good thoughts. We will keep you updated."
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Let them know:

"This is an 'adjustment period,' and she needs time to get more comfortable with her new surroundings/environment." And

"The family all appreciates your concern and caring. We will let you know when it is appropriate to visit, when she can handle more stimuli, without getting agitated." (In case they do not know that she is / could get agitated).

I wouldn't go into long stories.

* Ask them to send cards - with pretty pictures / photos so when you are there, you can show them to her and talk about them.

Gena / Touch Matters
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I think they have good intentions, they're just uninformed.

Tell them you'd be happy to give mom their gifts, but she needs time to adjust.

If they press... then all niceness is out the window
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