Please see my previous posts about my relationship and situation. I have pretty much gone no contact with my father and am still waiting for a hearing date to be set for the state to take guardianship.
He has an eviction hearing on Thursday and will most likely be evicted very soon from his apartment for overstaying. He was on a month to month and they gave him a 30 day notice because he is causing so many problems and they want him out.
Is it likely that the sheriff will take him to a shelter or call APS or crisis when they go to evict him?
I have called APS again to inform them of what is going on. They’ve done nothing that I know of except send police for a welfare check.
I am wondering what to do if he shows up to my office once he’s evicted (he doesn’t know where I live). He is not driving but he knows the name of my business, so I am worried he will have someone bring him there.
He did this a couple of years ago when he became homeless and was living in his car. I ended up helping him at that time and finding the apartment he currently lives in.
But I cannot do this again.
Always a sad story.
He told my dad that he needed a place to stay for a few days. My dad said that he could sleep on our couch for a few nights.
We only had one bathroom and one afternoon he forgot to lock the door. I walked in on him while he was drinking. He gave me a quarter and told me not to tell my parents.
My mom saw me playing with my shiny quarter and asked me where I got it. I told her that I got it from daddy’s friend who told me not to tell her that he was drinking in the bathroom. LOL 😆
Mom spoke to my father that evening. I saw daddy giving him a few dollars and he went on his merry way. I bet my father gave him money to take a bus trip to who knows where.
I had to cut my brother out of my life. I tried helping him in the past and he would be okay for a while but it never lasted.
My brother contacted my mom and asked to move in with us. I said no.
I feel for you. I lived in fear of my brother showing up. My answer would not have changed no matter what he said to me.
Stay strong, Windy. Wishing you peace during this difficult time.
My father did this in 2010. He did call first but was desperate for a place to stay. I obliged. He did nothing but complain and talk bad about me and my husband to my sister the whole 3 weeks he was there. And one day, he just left. Didn’t even say goodbye. Didn’t hear from him for over 6 months.
He had the nerve to ask me multiple times over the years after that. But I always said absolutely not.
But then he showed up to my work early last year in a bad state. He’d been staying at hotels and got tired of paying the money for them. Then he was living in his car and when he got tired of that, he used me as a resource.
I agree with Barb, use this form of interchange with the police.
Basically do nothing sit and wait to see what happens. Respond as appropriate.
Good Luck!
1. (Name) is harassing one of the employees of this business.
2. (Name) has been diagnosed with dementia and mental illness.
3. There is an open APS case and a state guardianship hearing is scheduled shortly.
4. We understand that (name) has been evicted for creating disturbances at his place of residence.
Has a guardian ad litem been appointed?
If he shows up at your office if you have Security call them and let them handle the situation.
If you do have security in your building let them know that he may show up. If you can provide a photo all the better.
You could try getting a restraining order so that if he does show up the police can handle it.
I just saw your reply that you do not have security in your office. Keep your cell handy call 911 if he shows up.
(and if you know if he has any weapons let the dispatcher know...just in case)
You do not need to be involved.
Then it is UP TO THEM.
Stop making it up to you.
Pretend this man never had children.
LEAVE THIS to your state.
I do not want to have to deal with a situation in which he shows up to my place of business.
We don’t have security and the police will only remove him for him to come back again (I’ve dealt with this with a disgruntled former employee recently).
Since no agencies will help, I am looking for what resources to use to handle this when it happens if it does before the court hearing.
I don’t think locking the door in the middle of winter and hoping that a man with dementia and mental problems will just go away.
You can consider calling a shelter to see if they have any advice. Many shelters book up very quickly. Is there a Salvation Army in your area? Consider talking to someone there to get some advice and see if there's any room.
If he shows up at your work and refuses to leave, then call the cops but they will just remove him from the premises, not take him to a shelter. But if your Dad is acting weird, they may call the EMTs to have him taken to an ER or psych ward for holding and assessment. I'm so sorry you are struggling with this situation.