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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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"Best care possible" is often a subjective judgment. In her late 70s my grandmother was not producing enough red blood cells and fell into a near coma state because her organs were not getting enough oxygen. At her worse, she stopped speaking but would chew and sallow food/water placed in her mouth. With blood transfusions she began to recover. I got the sense that my grandfather would be OK if she declined and died and I was furious with him. I made sure Grandma got regular blood transfusions, often providing the blood myself. She did recover enough to do ADLs again and was again in pain from her back and hip. She would never walk normally again and even walking 30 ft from her bedroom to the kitchen table would be painful for the rest of her life.
A couple of years later my grandfather revealed he had CHF, had been treated for CHF for almost a decade, and his doctor figured he had about a year to live. Grandpa died at 85 with only one worry - that he was leaving his wife of 65 years behind in this world (she was 81). I came to understand that when my grandmother was ill, Grandpa saw her in a painless decline. Knowing he wouldn't be around too much longer because of his own medical issues, he would have been content for her to have a painless exit from this world. He would have looked forward to their heavenly reunion.
Although in my mid 20s I KNEW aggressive treatment with blood transfusions were the "best of care", seeing the painful days my grandmother and my great-aunt (her sister) faced in their last years forced a reevaluation of my grandfather's point of view. I now believe quality of life is more important that quantity of life. Quantity with ill health may be a curse more than a blessing. Grandpa may have very well been right. I wasn't ready to lose Grandma and I wanted to do anything to keep her alive. I wan't really thinking about what was really good for Grandma. Please make sure your are considering what is really best for your dad before you consider confronting your stepmother.
Bring in extra services, if he's being cared for at home? Have him admitted to a different care setting? Move in with your father and his wife, to support them?
All kinds of things are possible; but without knowing what the situation is at the moment we can't really make any suggestions.
I think we need a little more info in order to offer helpful suggestions. What is his wife able to do now (is she old herself?) and what services if any does she have in place? What help do you and your siblings want to offer that is being rebuffed?
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
A couple of years later my grandfather revealed he had CHF, had been treated for CHF for almost a decade, and his doctor figured he had about a year to live. Grandpa died at 85 with only one worry - that he was leaving his wife of 65 years behind in this world (she was 81). I came to understand that when my grandmother was ill, Grandpa saw her in a painless decline. Knowing he wouldn't be around too much longer because of his own medical issues, he would have been content for her to have a painless exit from this world. He would have looked forward to their heavenly reunion.
Although in my mid 20s I KNEW aggressive treatment with blood transfusions were the "best of care", seeing the painful days my grandmother and my great-aunt (her sister) faced in their last years forced a reevaluation of my grandfather's point of view. I now believe quality of life is more important that quantity of life. Quantity with ill health may be a curse more than a blessing. Grandpa may have very well been right. I wasn't ready to lose Grandma and I wanted to do anything to keep her alive. I wan't really thinking about what was really good for Grandma. Please make sure your are considering what is really best for your dad before you consider confronting your stepmother.
Bring in extra services, if he's being cared for at home?
Have him admitted to a different care setting?
Move in with your father and his wife, to support them?
All kinds of things are possible; but without knowing what the situation is at the moment we can't really make any suggestions.