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If someone contacts their state Ombudsman with concerns over gaps in care of a family member in MC, what exactly are the actions the ombudsman would take?
I guess I am wondering how much they might "use" the name of the person who contacted them? Are they just a 'pass through' to other agencies like APS or the police? Is their purpose more about licensing infractions of the facility?
Also, would they visit the facility to make their own assessment and upon drawing their own conclusions talk to staff there citing the incident(s) from their view?
I posted last week about concerns in gaps I have seen in my mother's care in MC. Those of you who replied were all consistent that what I had noticed was "not normal" for level of care. So now I am weighing my options on what I might do about it.
My mother is still living there and I am not POA so I have no leverage to move her or make decisions on her behalf. As such, staff mostly never communicates with me, but I do not want to get sideways with staff or make things worse for my mom. I also do not want my name to be dragged into any tug of war.
Thank you.

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What you describe does not sound good, and I agree that you should contact the Ombudsman. But do you really think your sister will not connect the dots and know it was you who contacted them?

I'd suggest that you figure out what you want for your mother.. Do you want to move her to another MC? Maybe she might need a LTC facility now., do you know which one? Look into it all, so you know which facility you'd want her to go to. Alternatively, do you plan on taking care of her yourself, instead? Just have a workable plan you can propose.

Then I would talk to your sister about it. Just don't go off complaining to her about what's going on telling her she should be doing this that or the other thing. It won't be well received.

I can also add that I do not have POA for my father, but if I don't like something going on at his nursing home, they hear from me. I get stuff done despite not having that signed document. If you do not like what's going on, as a daughter you are entitled to raise holy hell. You do not need to be POA to do that.
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GingerMay Aug 2025
Thank you Hothouseflower. Yes, I have indeed spoken to staff there myself just as a daughter about these lapses. I spoke to the DoN twice and to the Executive Director twice (individually, not together). As for the DoN, the second time I spoke to her I specifically stated the concerns I raised a few months earlier looked to not have been addressed. I asked where she thought the gap was? She just looked at me blankly. I felt my input was unwelcome. I ended our discussion saying that I did not know what to do besides raise my concerns to those in a position to do something about them. My second discussion with her over two months ago and these issues are all still the same. No change.
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Ginger, who IS POA?
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GingerMay Aug 2025
BarbBrooklyn, My sister is POA for all aspects of mom's care.

I just do not think she is doing the diligence needed. I posted about this gap in my post last week. Literally - last week I went to visit my mom and saw my sister leaving in her car. So, she had just been there in the same environment I was walking into. What I saw in my mom's room was no ADLs, no toilet paper, no toothpaste, no towels out at the sink for hand washing, and no washcloth or shower sponge in the shower. There was a dirty towel on the floor by the shower stall that looked like they were using it for a bathmat, but it was not slip-resistant.
I then looked at her bed and it was a disaster area. Blankets were bunched up in the center of it, there was a dry urine-stained square pad on it and a towel was folded beneath it for what I assume was extra absorbency. The mattress was stained. There was a pink shower sponge at the end of the bed along with a scarf. There were no sheets on it. The comforter was folded up in the closet. I am not sure who is responsible for ensuring her bed is appropriately made. That is the condition my sister with POA left my mother in.
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