Been doing better on cognition tests, but meanwhile staying there amongst much older, dementia/medically impaired people has been depressing, stressful, boring, etc.
Medicaid is still pending… waiting for conservatorship court date to have access to her $ to spend down, provided they extend the Medicaid deadline. I am guardian and soon to be conservator. Just wishing more appropriate “placement” could be made in the future… but I know beggars cants be choosers! Trying to stay positive and encouraging. 😏
For a few years following the stroke, Mum's cognitive abilities improved. If she had been allowed to learn to become more independent again, during that time, I believe that her cognitive decline could have been slowed down.
I hope that your sister's condition is capable of improving.
I am not sure I understand, but it must be putting some pressure somewhere.
My brother, in his ALF, was for the most part in much better mental condition than others. He still made the best of it, and it was in fact great with so many of the elders there. He, another woman, and a man with a seizure disorder were really in quite good shape.
This is a matter of adjustment.
So often in age (I assure you at 81) things are less than perfect. We expect happiness of life, but when you think of it, life is SELDOM about "happiness" at any age. We live, we struggle, we celebrate, we die.
As conservator you are taking on responsibility that is not yours. You didn't cause any of this and you cannot fix it. You will do the best you can with what gifts you have. There's no nirvana on this side of the shade. Try not to trip into the future overmuch. Take things a day at a time. You cannot know where any of this will go.