My husband & I are 80 & my 58 y/o Daughter is in final stages of liver & colon cancer. But she is still independent & does not want to go to a facility since she is so young...but is having problems getting approved for an apartment on her disability income, tho she would be able to afford the rent. They want a co-signer and we certainly cannot sign such, at our age! To add to the problem, our house is too small for her to live with us. Any suggestions would really be appreciated.
Is she on Hospice?
Who would provide care for her if she is in an apartment?
Is she being realistic about what her future holds?
My condolences on this diagnosis for your daughter. Best of luck
Please let me ease your mind though. No one is asking these two 80-year olds to empty out their bank accounts. Their cancer-stricken daughter can pay her own rent as the OP mentions, but needs a co-signer for her new housing.
I don't know if you have any kids, but I would move heaven and earth for my son now. If he was terminally ill and needed a place to live I'd fight down the Devil himself and so would his father.
Tchamp, I am so shocked by your response that I was near speechless. About the daughter likely dying before the apartment lease is up. OMG, dude you are truly shameless.
So what if her two 80-year old parents lose some money. God help us all with the responses on this thread. Absolutely disgusting.
If the parents can afford to make the rent per the lease then cosign. If it would put you in a financial bind then do not cosign.
If she has Medicare and Medicaid under the circumstances she may qualify for Medicaid in a NH with Hospice. I agree, as she declines she is going to need help she may not be able to get in an apt. Hospice in the home someone needs to be there for her.
We say to Caregivers don't use your money to care for a parent, you may need it in the future when you are older. Now your saying to people who are 80 that they should co-sign for a child. This person is responsible for the daughter's rent if she can't make it. Where I live, a 1 bedroom could cost way over a $1000. If OP and husband live on their SS alone, this could be detrimental to them. Your assuming they have the ability to take on this debt.
I suggest your daughter go to Social Services and tell them her situation. I understand she does not want to go to a NH situation but seems like she has no one who can help. She needs to find out what her options are.
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