My mom lives with my sister and I in my home. I have been her primary caregiver for nine years. This last year has become more challenging day by day. My mom has become mentally, emotionally, and more recently physically abusive. She creates situations, becomes belligerent and then calls the police. The sad part is a couple of days later she won't remember any of it. She has begun walking off and I have to go find her. If you talk to her, she can carry a conversation including who our President is! The medications that she was prescribed to help her, she won't take. Recently I have seen her abuse over the counter drugs. I need help.
Mixing with meds & wandering & paranoia are unsafe behaviours requiring investigation.
Has your Mother received a formal diagnosis of Dementia? (Knowing the President's name is just one question requiring a rote learned answer).
IF there is a formal diagnosis - that's the start.
Then you will want to get more knowledge of how to care for her, strategies for various behaviours, strategies to increase her safety, the right medications & a lot more help. Many people have to reassess what is possible in their home, what is possible for them & start considering alternatives at this time.
Are you familiar at all with dementia? It sounds like you are trying to care for an elder without any knowledge or experience with dementia, meaning your mother is in a very dangerous situation in your home! She can set the house on fire by leaving a pot on the stove and forgetting it's there. Or by mixing chemicals together to clean and asphyxiating herself.
Please get your mother to her doctor right away for a cognition exam to see where she's at mentally, and what advice he can give you as far as what to do for her next.
Read this article which is a free download:
Understanding the Dementia Experience, by Jennifer Ghent-Fuller
https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/210580
Dementia is not linear; in that she's not going to act exactly the same way every day; she'll have good days and bad days; days when she seems lucid and other days when she seems off the wall and not like herself at all. My mother lived in a Memory Care AL when her dementia got pretty bad and her issues became too many to be dealt with in regular Assisted Living. There was no way I was qualified to care for her at home, as one person, with her TON of issues! She needed a team of caregivers working 24/7 to help her every day. That's what normally happens when dementia progresses; it becomes too much to handle alone at home, as you are seeing with abusive behavior. Next time she hits you, call 911 and have her taken to the ER for a psychiatric evaluation. If you'd like her to be placed, tell the ER she is an unsafe discharge when they're ready to release her. The social worker will have to find her a Skilled Nursing Facility to live in at that point, and you can apply for Medicaid.
Wishing you the best of luck dealing with this difficult situation and trying to keep your mom safe.