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Her GP says she was of sound mind.
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As they never provided any care when she took ill. They say she was of sound mind but there must have been an imbalance somewhere.
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my mum wanted to live in one when she should have carers and family and friends at home (sheltered housing independent living). The authorities were in agreement with me and her doctor.

I do not know why she hurt so many people by doing this. But I blame the home for not trying hard enough to send her home. All they thought about was money and insulting the family and friends.
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How did you feel during those 8 years - 8 years! Wow - that she didn't speak to you?

Do you wish yourself back to that time?

What on earth possessed you to accept the power of attorney?

None of the above helps, though. Oh boy.

Suppose you (God forbid) got knocked down by a bus. Never mind what you do with her, what would she do without you? Then, if anybody has any suggestions as to how you make her consider that proposition, maybe it would be a fresh perspective?

I'm not hopeful, though.
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Boy, this is the first time I have been on this chat station...loving the "give a hug" thing and I really appreciate all of your kind words and support.

Yes, I often feel like running away, and my husband says that when he retires in 3 years, we just might do that. I do have DPOA, and I am taking care of mom's finances and I live close to her nursing home. My sister lives out of state and is the main "phone call sounding board" for mom and she calls staff when needed. I show up when needed...about twice a week. I also work a full time job and a part time job, so....

Anyway, I look forward to any pearls of wisdom from you all on this.

Thank You
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Anxiety meds may be needed for brief outbursts. Anti-depressants can backfire, for example, give Prozac to a schizophrenic and they actually get worse. If she is still yelling at everyone and she is on an anti-depressant, the medication simply isn't working. Talk to the staff MD about what might work for her. Do it before they kick her out.
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Oh Lordy, do I understand! I will get back to you later as I have to go out, but know you are not alone. Fortunately mother is in a place where the staff are willing to work with her, but she wants to move!!! I so understand about the crying wolf.
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I suppose running away is out of the question? Have you accepted DPOA or similar?
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