Hi to all of my friends - it's Maximus. My parents in their 90's just told me they invited a couple over for dinner that they never met in person, except they spoke by phone. My mom dialed their number by mistake and my dad dialed the number back and spoke to this stranger who said he's from Brooklyn, where my parents are from. I think they're lonely and looking for people who have something in common. Is this normal to invite strangers over? My mom said we should meet them in a restaurant, not in our home. I told them not to do this and my dad said don't be silly. P.S. Hope you are all well - Maximus
They could meet at a restaurant. Or local cafe for lunch or coffee even better.
Yes they risk getting fleeced & left with the whole bill.. or they may make some wonderful new acquaintances.
I'd skip home visits for way down the track. After MUCH trust has been established. Brand new acquaintances do not need to know personal details such as income or home environment.
People from Brooklyn who relocate to other parts of the country love hooking up bc they speak the same language. I doubt these new friends are going to kill your folks or chop their bodies up, but likely share a meal and a few laughs together. People meet online all the time and form friendships and even romances....is this all that much different? It seems insane to you but it feels ok to your folks, so maybe trust their gut on this one. Repeat the suggestion to meet in a restaurant instead of in moms home for the first meeting, just in case they need to make a hasty retreat for some reason.
Good luck.
While this is somewhat similar to online dating - it's also not really. It is more inline with much younger teens meeting predators online - at least it feels like that. It may be perfectly harmless. But it may not be.
While it is certainly a "meet cute" - wrong number and all - it just seems too good to be true to me.
And did your dad's neurologist tell you directly that he has no dementia? Or did THEY tell you that? Mom too?
My FIL has so far told us that he passed his hearing test and his cognitive assessment in the last week. We don't even have the results back on either yet. AND he took the hearing test WITHOUT his hearing aids. So there is literally NO way he passed. That's what he would LIKE to be the result.
Sounds like they shouldn't be living alone anymore if their judgment is this impaired.