I've been taking care of them for over 5 years. My husband didn't seem to mind until now. He has just retired & now is not happy with this arrangement. He has become very jealous. I have tried to make as much time for him as possible, but it never seems to be enough. Between worring about my parents & him, I am always on edge. My mother is blind, so that doesn't help matters.
Hopefully your husband will help you find the answer and not just complain.
Perhaps you could start by having area on aging come in and assess the level of care your parents require and perhaps offer some suggestions for your area. I would be sure to have husband be part of the assessment and discussion. Acknowledging your husbands request by taking action might go a long way in helping him adjust to his new situation. Hopefully he will join with you in finding the solution instead of feeling like he's not as important to you as your parents are. Let us know how you work it out.
If your parents are in their 80's or 90's, they will refuse to go to a continuing care facility because they remember back a half century ago when such places were asylums. They have no idea that today's continuing care places are like living in a hotel. My parents were the same way.
My Mom refused to move from her own house. It wasn't until she passed that two weeks later Dad was ready to pack and move to senior living. My gosh, he loved it there.... he said he wished he would had there years earlier :) He was around people of his own age group, and a lot of new sets of ears to listen to his stories.
Sometimes there comes a time when the elder aren't given a choice because they aren't processing what is going on with their health.
What about a professional caregiver who could come into your home a couple times a week for a couple of hours, to help free up your time?
Now hubby is home, and he is bored because he's not going to work. Even if your parents weren't there, you yourself will still have to do all the housework unless you can have hubby pitch in to help you, to give you more free time. My sig other isn't much on housework, you'd think I was asking him to scale Mount Rushmore. Then he wonders why I am too tired to go out to do things :P
Any chance hubby could do volunteer work at something he really enjoyed? My parents volunteered at the local hospital 3x a week, up into their late 80's and early 90's. They really loved doing the work. That would get him out of the house, and volunteering is such a feel good type of thing.