I am so angry, upset, annoyed, you name it! My husband, for those who don’t know, was kicked out of the third MC facility for barricading himself in his room when he took a female patient in with him, he striped but she was fully clothed. Police investigation was conducted and was dismissed. He didn’t touch her.
Now at the fourth place he and a female patient fondled each other and then he tried to put his penis in her mouth. Investigated and it was by mutual consent.
My problem is, yes I know he has Alzheimer’s, I am very ANGRY. The powers that be said “he is aware enough to know what he was doing, he isn’t that far gone yet.” I can’t even look at his picture. I have rotating pictures on my computer. I look at it and say “I can’t stand your face, I don’t want anything to do with you! “
Normal? Not normal? How can I get over the anger? I am not hurt that he did it just angry. The marriage wasn’t that good, married 54 years and he was an alcoholic.
Any suggestions besides seeing a therapist? I don’t want to talk to him or see him!
Did he treat women like this?
My head is spinning with what you have described.
I would be so tempted to discuss with an Elder Care Attorney the "what if's" if you were to divorce him so you are no longer responsible for having to make decisions as to what to do when the other shoe drops.
(I might have to disagree with you in your first description when he barricaded himself in a room you say "he took a female patient with him" an investigation conducted, dropped because "he did not touch her" Well..how did he take the female patient into his room? If he touched her to get her to go into the room he in fact touched her. He may not have sexually touched her but he probably did touch her to get her into the room. (If I were a family member of that woman I would be livid that charges were dismissed)...That probably did not help you but had to get it out.
You do need to see a therapist and discuss this. You need a neutral person you can discuss things with.
You do not have to see him or talk to him. That is your decision.
If you do divorce he would be made Ward of the State if there are no family members that would want to be his Guardian.
((hugs)) I can not imagine going through this! 🙏
from what I was told he lured the fe,le to his room. How I have no idea. But within hours, police investigated, didn’t press charges and my his dad had to leave the facility immediately.