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Sometimes it isn’t “denial”... it is anosgnosia. That is what my mother has and she TRULY doesn’t believe that anything is wrong with her. She is incapable of understanding that she has mental defects, is incontinent, or needs help. Apparently, it is very common with people who have dementia, strokes, or other types of brain damage.
Depends who it is that's in denial.....the person diagnosed with dementia or the loved one/care giver. It happens on both ends. I work as a receptionist in a Memory Care community and see a resident who insists she's the only one living there without dementia, that her children put her there for no reason after selling her condos and stealing all her money. She refuses all help from care givers, will not interact with the other residents who are all "crazy and stupid", and will not dine in the dining area with the others during meal time. She has NO short term memory bank whatsoever and repeats herself continuously. There's no talking to her at ALL, so I do my best to ignore her while she's in the lobby area. For some odd reason, the management thinks it's a good idea to let her come out of the secured area into the lobby to hound and torture the receptionist AND the visitors who find her very irritating and offensive. Especially when she asks them WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOUR MOTHER? SHE'S ACTING SO WEIRD AND STUPID. Sigh.
Then I see the son who insists his 77 year old mother with severe FTD dementia will "get better" if only she's given the proper attention and handling. She's non vocal, so his latest idea is to have her learn SIGN LANGUAGE so she can communicate. Hello? If she was able to communicate she would use her language skills she's BEEN using for the past 7 decades.
Denial is not just a river in Egypt. It's alive and well and in practice by lots of people who cannot or will not deal with the truth because it's too painful.
I agree that more details would help us to help you. If your LO has dementia, they are not in denial, they are in decline and can't help themselves. Your profile says you are exhausted -- no doubt! Has your LO granted you PoA? If not, and before seeing the doc for a cognitive assessment, it would be a good idea to try to get this legal tool and protection in place. Then maybe get a formal diagnosis for her cognitive function. Knowing if your mom is or is not in control of her mind will better help you cope, and plan for how to move forward. Please provide more info to get fully informed support, encouragement and suggestions for your own wellbeing, and your mom's. Blessings!
If the person you speak of has dementia, then that is much more of a problem than denial. We all live with a certain amount of denial in our lives regarding things we are not yet ready to face. It is very human. Truth is that you DON'T deal with it.
Generally speaking, does it really matter if they're in denial? They still have the same diagnosis, need the same help, even if they won't/can't acknowledge their problems.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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Then I see the son who insists his 77 year old mother with severe FTD dementia will "get better" if only she's given the proper attention and handling. She's non vocal, so his latest idea is to have her learn SIGN LANGUAGE so she can communicate. Hello? If she was able to communicate she would use her language skills she's BEEN using for the past 7 decades.
Denial is not just a river in Egypt. It's alive and well and in practice by lots of people who cannot or will not deal with the truth because it's too painful.
Generally speaking, does it really matter if they're in denial? They still have the same diagnosis, need the same help, even if they won't/can't acknowledge their problems.