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I feel like I cannot do anything I used to. I feel useless. Cannot vacuum a lot take shower once a week, it’s a lot of work. Tired of no one checking on me unless I call.

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Why not consider AL? At least you'll be around others and there is help available. Some good ones even have Activity Directors, busses, events, etc.

I agree that you should get your depression checked if you havent' done that already. It's very very common for elders to need medication. My Mom, who barely wanted to take aspirin, asked for something to help when she started feeling weepy in the morning. She knew it wasn't normal for her. The lowest dose of Lexapro helped her a lot. No shame in needing this kind of help. You're in a giant club.

Paying for in-home is also an option but since you seem to be operating on your own you should know that it can be a merry-go-round of aids until you "gel" with the right one and then hope they stick around. It's also very expensive to hire through an agency -- which I highly recommend. They take care of background checks and finding subs. They also have the proper insurance, conduct standards and accountability for aids, should something happen. They can train aids, as well.

Please see an elder law attorney to get your legal ducks in a row. You will absotely need a medical and financial legal representative as your abilities decline. It might have to be a lawyer, or a pre-chosen legal guardian.

I wish you all the best as you prep for the coming years so they can be peaceful and pleasant.
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You put your post under "Depression" so I hope you're getting help with that, as that most certainly can make one not want to do much.
But to answer your question, you know it's time to either hire in-home help or look into moving into an assisted living facility when it's getting too difficult for you to do "normal" activities like cleaning your house and yourself.
I wish you well in finding the help you need.
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Do you have physical problems making it difficult to do things at home ? Or is it depression the only reason you can’t do things ?
Have you seen a doctor to be treated for depression?
Can you afford to hire help ?
Could you afford , or would consider assistant living , where you would have staff checking on you , as well as housekeeping, meals prepared , activities and socialization with other residents ?

You can call your local County Area Agency of Aging to have a social worker come to your home and determine your needs and help you navigate getting the help you need .
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