She chases everyone off. My mother lives at home with my father. Her regular care giver is on vacation. Somehow she decided she liked her from the get go, but she's chased off about 25 others over the past few years, and is about to drive off the one who's standing in for the regular. Dad is 87 - impossible for him to do it til their other returns. My sister will be there for a few days to help. She lives close by - and mom thinks she's another care giver. I live far away, see her once / year, and she does to me what she does to the others. She's also gone through physical therapists. "I hate you! Get out of my house!" Non stop. "Who are you? Why are you here! LEAVE! LEAVE NOW!" Dad keeps trying to explain things to her, and she agrees, but of course that's in name only. I'd greatly appreciate any help to pass on to my dad. My sister is good - has read all the books etc, but she doesn't have any ideas either. I'll be very grateful for any ideas I can send to my father and cc my sister on.
Refusal to let caregivers in the house was ultimately why mom had to be placed in a facility
That said, I still don't quite know why she likes some and not others unless there are obvious reasons
I'm sorry this is so difficult for your family but she likely does need some type of anti anxiety med
Eventually, it may come to the point where a person with dementia just can't call the shots, run the show or make important decisions. Resistance to care is quite common. She may really need the care, even if she doesn't like it. Her husband's welfare is also at risk. And sadly, the person with dementia might not always be happy and content. It's a part of the condition. If she's too out of control about another caretaker being present, I'd discuss options with her doctor. Perhaps, in patient care until the regular caretaker returns.