I help care for my grandmother...she is very difficult to handle..she never tells what she needs..even when I was younger...always difficult to express her needs..no matter how patient u r with her. She goes in the room & expects us to clean. It's all the more difficult now that she needs care...to constantly guess her needs and to make things easier for her..my biggest issue is she refuses to go to the bathroom tho she can walk to it...so we tried making her wear a diaper which she removes...and she relives herself in her room..and expects us to clean it..we tried bedpans..an diaper like I said...this upsets me sometimes and I'm rude to her :( and I hate being tht way...I coming to not like the person I who I'm am around her...she is my grandmother and I love her...I really need help.. But this is really getting to me...I want to do what is right for her and for me !! HELP !!!
When you say that she relives herself in her room, do you mean in a commode, or do you mean she just goes on the bed or in the corner or something like that? If it’s in a commode, I don’t know if you’re going to do any better than that.
But if you mean somewhere undesirable, like the bed or floor, I have several of those mattress pads that wick moisture away but protect the mattress. If Mom has an accident, I change it along with the sheets. Of course, that means laundry and doesn't solve the problem of the wet behind. Getting someone with a wet behind to change their clothes and wash their behind isn’t that easy, either, so it doesn’t solve the entire problem.
I purchased incontinence pads that you can put on furniture, but the washable ones, not the disposables that they sell at the drug stores. When Mom is especially having problems, I put those on top of the mattress pad because they’re easier to take off and wash than the entire mattress pad.
If it’s the floor, I’m trying to think how you could put these pads around so that she’s using them instead of right on the floor, but not sure if there’s a way to secure them.
My parents are in their 90's, and my Dad wouldn't wear Depends... finally my Mom got tired of cleaning up his messes so now she is making him clean up his own mishaps... guess what?.... Dad now is wearing Depends.
But if your Grandmother has memory issues and cannot understand why one needs to use a toilet and hates wearing a Depends, it is time for a higher level of care in a nursing home.