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Hi I have a brother in a nursing home and he needs long term care. The thing is that I do not like that nursing home for the reasons being that they are not trying to help him get better. I mean that he needs intense physical therapy and speech therapy. The therapy that he is getting is sitting in a chair a little bit of walking (and I mean little bit) and that's it. The doctor does not visit him on a regular basis, he doesn't provide medical checkups. I had to suggest to the doctor to setup an appointment for a neurologist and a dentist. I do not like this nursing home because I do not think they are giving him the special care that he needs. So I need to know if anybody has any ideas of how I can get him transferred to another facility. My brother had very low sodium and he ended up in the hospital so it affected his brain. He can't walk or talk. But he is not getting the proper care that he needs in this facility. So I want to get him transferred.
Evelyn, is anyone else involved in your brother's care? Wife, parent, guardian? If you are his next of kin, it should be comparatively straightforward in that what you do is research NHs in the area, visit three or four that you like the look of, and see if they appear to provide more specialist care than he is currently getting. Then you book his place, agree the funding and transfer him.
However. How detailed is your understanding of what landed your brother in hospital and what his prognosis is? Low sodium doesn't happen on its own: what was the cause? Next question: how is your brother's care funded, and who has control of his finances?
It is good that your brother has you as his advocate, and you should continue to press the facility to pay closer attention to his needs. But before you assume he'd be better off somewhere else, make sure you have a detailed grasp of what is possible in terms of his progress.
Remote, underprivileged and poor economic areas. Like Memphis. With my mother receiving chemo, the only 'rehab facility' available to take her to (once the hospital released her) was a place called "The Highlands". Turned out, that place was worse that I can bring myself to describe without punching my laptop repeatedly. And once they got wind that we were trying to get her out, her treatment got WORSE.
my mom has just been diagnosed with liver cancer she is 90 years old and we chose not to have a biopsy done feeling it would not be good for her when she was in hospital she w2as more awake they got her up to go to the bathroom she seemed more alert in this nursing home they are giving her oxi and they have her in a diaper and i hate seeing my mom like that in want her to be with me orn i would move into her apartment with her with help from an aide a fews hours a day or twice a week or whatever i know i can take care of her and i know she cannot be happy in this nursing facility
How heartbreaking! Seeing your mother like this in her home or your home would probably not much better than seeing her like this in a skilled nursing facility.
You are sure that you can take care of her, and that may be perfectly true. Have you seen what they do for your mother over the course of a day and night? Are you retired? Single? Strong? Healthy?
I cannot imagine being "happy" with cancer, but it may be true that your mother would be less unhappy with you than in a facility.
If your mother wants to leave and be with you, and you can demonstrate that you have a viable plan for taking care of her, I don't know why that cannot happen.
Is there anyone who would object? Siblings? Other relatives?
Flo, the reason I asked about staging is this: can you do this for 3 months? Can you do it for three years? Point is, "cancer" doesnt tell you much. Talk to the oncologist about whether she is eligible for hospice care, and think about how much you can do physically for your mom.
I understand that it's hard to see your mom in a diaper. Do you feel that she would not need them at home? How much of what you are seeing is due to the fact that she's in a nursing home, and how much is due to the fact that she has a terrible, life limiting illness.
flodarling, may I ask why your Mom was in a nursing home to begin with?
I agree with Jeanne who also suggested while your Mom is still at the nursing home, that you stay there with her.... I suggested to stay for 48 hours, yes even though the night [if allowed], to get a better understanding how much care she would need. And you just watch. You might be surprised how much work is involved. I could be more than what you and an occasional Aide can do.
My Mom was in long-term-care, she couldn't walk or stand, and was very confused most of the time. I knew in my mind there was no way I could bring my Mom home for me to take care of her. For one, I wouldn't be able to lift her. I would be burnt out in less than a month. Then what? Be placed on a waiting list for the next available nursing home bed knowing that hospitals have first priority?
Flo, your brother may be wrong, but he is the one your mother chose to give the authority to make decisions.
Nursing home do not take people who don't meet their standards of need. You may think that "she isn't that bad yet" but she is definitely bad enough to qualify for nursing home care.
You don't like the nursing home? Tough. Sorry, but taking care of elders involves doing many things we "don't like." If you are not willing to spend a lot of time with her where she is, I wonder how realistic you are being about what you could do if she lived with you?
Healthcare POA gets to make the decision. He did. The NH facility has to validate the need for NH. They did. Your only recourse here would be to convince your brother to change his mind.
Please visit and care for your mother where she is!
(Or as we said in 60s, Bloom where you are planted now.)
My husband was taking care of his mom for 6 years with no help from his family.So he placed her in a nursing home she has Damentia/Alzheimer's and it's getting worse.So now his sister who never been there trying to go behind his back to remove her is there anything we can do cause if we couldn't handle her I know she can't plus he have POA
My uncle was put in a nursing home by his wife telling him to sign a false statement that her daughter, made up about his health. He is illiterate, doesn't speak, or write english or spanish, write or read it. What can he do to get out of the nursing home. He is of sound and mind.
Priscilla, who's paying for his care at the nursing home? Is it his wife or her daughter?
What was the basis for his placement there?
Has anyone thought about contacting a local organization of Spanish speaking people, or the Spanish consulate to provide a Spanish speaking person who can converse with him and find out what's going on?
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
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However. How detailed is your understanding of what landed your brother in hospital and what his prognosis is? Low sodium doesn't happen on its own: what was the cause? Next question: how is your brother's care funded, and who has control of his finances?
It is good that your brother has you as his advocate, and you should continue to press the facility to pay closer attention to his needs. But before you assume he'd be better off somewhere else, make sure you have a detailed grasp of what is possible in terms of his progress.
You are sure that you can take care of her, and that may be perfectly true. Have you seen what they do for your mother over the course of a day and night? Are you retired? Single? Strong? Healthy?
I cannot imagine being "happy" with cancer, but it may be true that your mother would be less unhappy with you than in a facility.
If your mother wants to leave and be with you, and you can demonstrate that you have a viable plan for taking care of her, I don't know why that cannot happen.
Is there anyone who would object? Siblings? Other relatives?
here and there i can take care of my mom
I understand that it's hard to see your mom in a diaper. Do you feel that she would not need them at home? How much of what you are seeing is due to the fact that she's in a nursing home, and how much is due to the fact that she has a terrible, life limiting illness.
I agree with Jeanne who also suggested while your Mom is still at the nursing home, that you stay there with her.... I suggested to stay for 48 hours, yes even though the night [if allowed], to get a better understanding how much care she would need. And you just watch. You might be surprised how much work is involved. I could be more than what you and an occasional Aide can do.
My Mom was in long-term-care, she couldn't walk or stand, and was very confused most of the time. I knew in my mind there was no way I could bring my Mom home for me to take care of her. For one, I wouldn't be able to lift her. I would be burnt out in less than a month. Then what? Be placed on a waiting list for the next available nursing home bed knowing that hospitals have first priority?
Nursing home do not take people who don't meet their standards of need. You may think that "she isn't that bad yet" but she is definitely bad enough to qualify for nursing home care.
You don't like the nursing home? Tough. Sorry, but taking care of elders involves doing many things we "don't like." If you are not willing to spend a lot of time with her where she is, I wonder how realistic you are being about what you could do if she lived with you?
Healthcare POA gets to make the decision. He did. The NH facility has to validate the need for NH. They did. Your only recourse here would be to convince your brother to change his mind.
Please visit and care for your mother where she is!
(Or as we said in 60s, Bloom where you are planted now.)
Maybe Flo is concerned with the care her mom would get when she is not around.
What was the basis for his placement there?
Has anyone thought about contacting a local organization of Spanish speaking people, or the Spanish consulate to provide a Spanish speaking person who can converse with him and find out what's going on?