My 93-year-old dad has urinary frequency at night to the point that his sleep is severely disturbed. Once in a while, he sleeps fairly well, but not most nights. He is being followed by a urologist & has been prescribed all the usual meds without success. We've tried taking them in the daytime & when that doesn't work. We switch to night time. The most recent one is oxybutinin which he has been taking at night & he swears it makes things worse. I've tried explaining that these drugs take weeks to show any effect, but he is too impatient. To his credit, he has given it his best shot, but still no positive results. It's driving me crazy! He saw the urologist September & I went with him. I get a feeling the urologist is reluctant to do any procedures due to Dad's age & I agree with that. He will be seen again in March.
Anyone else dealt with this? I'm tired of hearing about his plumbing problems.
When it was time for my uncle to start wearing them, he really fought hard against wearing "diapers." He would prefer to wet the bed or fall getting to the bathroom before ever wearing "diapers." The hospice nurse was wonderful and focused on what they were being called. Eventually he gave in to wearing pull ups, but he would never have given in if people had continued calling them diapers.
Now that it is my turn, I feel exactly as he did. Diapers are for babies - pull ups are for adults.
If you change the words you use, it might be a bit easier to convince the person to use them!! It sure made a difference with my uncle, and to be honest, there is one person in my life who insists on calling them diapers, and I bristle every single time.
I used pull up pants and a liner over the bottom sheet and reassured him I’d rather deal with wet pants and even wet bed rather than another fall so to take his time as the pants would (mostly) contain any leakage. Dad had prostate cancer so needed the toilet several times a night. No medication ever resolved that. Wasn’t prefect and I spent most nights washing sheets at 2am as often dad would try to take the pants off but it wasn’t dad’s fault so I wouldn’t grumble as I knew how frustrating and tiring it was for him too.
As far as I know, you have two choices - put up with it or have surgery to eliminate the enlarged prostate problem. I had the surgery and get up once a night at the most.
Good luck.