My dad is 88. He is overly infatuated with a 31 year old preacher at his church. She is meeting him at various places to go eat and according to him it is serious. At times his behavior is risky with how far he will drive to go meet her. He is not wanting to use his cane anymore, which he needs. He becomes confused at times and gets angry at times too. I want him to be evaluated by his doctor, but I do not want his doctor to tell him that I am requesting this. How does this work?
Personality changes, being impatient are common.
It might also be a time to reevaluate his driving as well.
His attachment might also be a sign.
I did not notice in your first post that he had been diagnosed with any type of Dementia but it might be worth getting checked next time he has a doctors appointment.
I once had a friend who was dating a girl 30 years younger than he was. This relationship has endured almost 20 years. So, it's not unheard of. But that's not to say that you shouldn't keep an eye on this friendship.
If you do not have Financial POA you might want to try to get that in place. Make sure you track donations and other expenses.
I may be over reacting and totally out of line but I am a skeptic and this just does not feel (sound) right.
Tell Dad Medicare is asking for a physical to be done. Notes are good. I had them for Moms neurologist for every visit. Like said, it helped him know where Mom was and what questions to ask. I agree, Dad should not be driving. My Uncle got lost in DE in his early stage of Alzheimers. He lived in NJ but knew DE well.
I had to do this with my dad. I typed 2 paragraphs, double spaced, with 3 or 4 of my main concerns. Once in the office with the Dr. he addressed the concerns without mentioning the letter I wrote him. It was very organic and my dad didn't know the difference.
My Dad also refused to use his cane when he was around the "ladies." I convinced him that he looked dapper with the cane and just plain old when he shuffled around without it. Now he's 96, and wants to use the cane instead of the walker on a date he's arranging. It never ends.
Blessings,
Jamie