He does own AM care with prompts. They would like to be compensated in addition to free rent. Wondering how much is the right amount? They do his laundry and shopping. They pay for their groceries. He is alone in the house for a few hours every day with an alert necklace. Looking for some guidance about compensation. He can afford to pay something and is willing. They set up his meals and Meds. Other family does doctor visits. He also has memory issues and needs frequent reassuring or patience about repeated questions. They do minor repairs, clean the house, snow blowing, mow lawn, take him for rides, errands etc.
My Dad had a situation where once my Mom had passed, Dad didn't know how to the things that Mom would do around the house. This brilliant man could invent things, but not be able to put together a ham sandwich.... [sigh].
Ok, price of care is more area driven than nationwide driven. Dad was paying $30/hour for caregivers from an Agency. Eventually Dad needed 3 full-time shifts per day as he was now a major fall risk. Yikes that was $20k per month.
Dad [95] wanted to save money so he checked out Independent Living and found that to be so much more affordable then paying caregivers in his home. The facility was set up like a hotel. He moved in while he was still able to learn his way around, to learn the faces of the Staff, and to make new friends. He loved the place since he was around people closer to his own age, and loved the menu service in the community restaurant.
So many things to think about when we have an elder parent who is still doing pretty good at that age.
If you're talking about compensation, one way to look at it would be to assess their loss of earnings. What is it costing them to provide this care? If they weren't spending this time with your father and were free to work at their usual jobs, how much more would they be making in a typical week?
Or, you can look at the market rate for caregivers, add up the number of hours spent on caregiving, and figure out a weekly allowance that way.
You have two issues on the horizon. One, your father is going to get worse, frailer, and need more assistance. Two, your daughter and SIL are going to need respite breaks - no one can live with dementia 24/7 indefinitely, even if they are getting handsomely paid. Do the two of them really understand what they've taken on?